Is it wrong of me?

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To not want to share any information about my pregnancy or my son with the father's family or friends. We have been broken up since before I found out and he is barely around. I keep my pregnancy pretty low key and only inform my family members who call or contact me or see me daily. And who have been there since day one. So is it wrong that I want to keep any and all information from the "father's" side?

Updated information: I've met these members only ONCE. And the one time I met them, the aunt introduced me to the rest of the family as his "friend" which we had at that point been together for 1 and a half years. They have nothing nice to say about me ever and I've gotten disrespected by his mother more than a handful of times to my face and she has called the baby "a thing" to my face as well and not once was I congratulated by any of them or have they ever come to me asking me anything. Seeing that I am 8 months pregnant and they have known for almost 5 months "because he kept it from his family from the moment we found out" and still nothing. I don't think they deserve any information and I don't think I should share.

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If they are trying to reach out to you then I think you should let them in. I'm not too sure if I would reach out to them thought. I'm in limbo with this as well

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I understand the way you feel, totally!  But i think you should still allow them to be involved, as the father is the one who messed up, not his entire family. However, i wouldn't go calling and texting them everytime you feel a flutter,  let them ask you how the baby is doing. Unfortunately it is going to be related to them, and i dont think its fair for them to be excluded for something they didnt do.

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Honestly I dont blame you! I think they would ask you and talk to you if they wanted more information. If the father is not very involved no need to involve his family more :)

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I can relate his family can be the kind to get all in his head telling him ugly things if yall not together why should u tell them anything are they going to help u in the end or just talk stuff you have to question yourself is it wroth it

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If they want to be involved you should share. Low key or not, that is your child's family and it's not fair of you to keep them from him. You may have issues with your ex but that doesn't mean his family will be deadbeat as well.

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I share what's going on with my daughter if they ask. Normally they only ask near holidays because that's the only time they bother asking to see her.

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I can relate. I really don't want my baby's father's family to be around my baby because of their life style. They don't ask about our baby I don't tell. He and I are still together though .

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That is a good question! In my personal opinion I think you should tell the fathers family so at least you give them an option to do the right thing (which is be in your child's life) But if not, that's on them and not you! I hope everything works out for you!

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