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My Mother 😠

Amanda • Mon, Feb 01 • Proud Mother and Wife to my little family

So, a bit of back story - my mom is an alcoholic and in 2014 was in the hospital for almost 6 months because she almost died. Doctors gave us a 2% chance of survival and spent more time prepping us to accept her death than treating her. But, by a miracle, she pulled trough.

When I got married in 2014 (the wedding was a month before she almost died) she spent my entire engagement complaining that I was involving my step mother more than her with plans and shopping... The truth is, she bailed EVERY time I asked her to come with me, or if my MOH reached out about the shower... So while she claims no one involved her it's really that she ditched and declined every opportunity. Except shopping for my dress one time - where she showed up drunk.

Fast forward to now, I'm expecting my first child. She made it VERY clear that she wanted to throw my baby shower and not my step mom or friends. So I told her ok. Three weeks later she tells my friends that I'm forcing this on her, she's too overwhelmed and wants to just "be in the backseat". 😒 fine.

So, this Saturday I invited her and my SIL to help me add things to my registry. Everything went fine - or so I thought.

My SIL calls me yesterday and tells me that Sunday at church she was telling EVERYONE that would listen that I was "so annoying" to shop with because I was "registering for stupid stuff". The big examples she had? Burp cloths. Because "old rags or old dish towels work just as well"

Also because my husband and I picked a travel system that's $350 - which is "a luxury not a necessity."

I'm so hurt and upset but not surprised. She bitches that I exclude her but whenever I include her - this happens.

I dont know what to do anymore 😞

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