To try or to let it happen

I know this sounds crazy but me and my husband are torn between just letting it happen on its own time and be like " Well af hasn't showed yet, can you go grab a test?" Or getting opk and trying amd tracking things. I feel like I'm gonna be thinking about it either way cause I'm a POAS addict but he says he doesn't want me to stress every month and that he feels it won't happen if we think of it constantly . Any advice?