Im over Weight. About 100lbs over weight. My husband and I have wanted a baby for a while. And we have had some concern as to whether or not i could become pregnant or not due to very irregular cycles. Im talking once a year. Twice if im lucky. So we haven't been taking any precotions for the past three years. Since then I sufferd a bad accident. We have been so cought up in it and the problems and surgies it has brought we didnt stop and consider that I could actually get pregnant... Now im pretty positve I am. I have so many mixed emotions and i feel so guilty. Right now isnt a good time. Financially or health wise. But i want this baby. Iv wanted a baby. But i cant help but worry. How will my weight afect this child? What risks am I exposing it to. Will it make it through my surgerys? What risks does that bring?.... I feel like im failing already. And guilty for hoping im not because of all these risks. I hate my self for being selfish and not taking precotions at the risk of missing my chance, or taking the time to look at my situation. It was completely put on the back burner. We were so used to the thought that "it wasn't going to happen for us" that we never thought twice about it. I dont know what to do or how to feel.... Im so lost.