So, I'll try and make this not super long. My family is small. We have my parents and sister and bil and my husbands mom and brother that are actually close enough family or live close enough. I have my csection scheduled for the 24th. My mom will go in the operating room with me because well my husband just can't handle it and my sister is keeping my daughter at her house and I think my dad is taking that day off from work too so basically everyone is available BUT I want my sister to bring my daughter to the hospital as soon as we are both good to meet her brother and I want that to be a calm family moment. My daughter is autistic and my family handles her better than me sometimes but my mil drives me insane with how she talks over us or repeats us when talking to her. So my mom dad are already there and then call my sister to bring my daughter that means she is the only one really left out and want her to come by last so my mom can help daughter get some family photos in the calm and my family also won't take it personally and have already said after a couple pictures they will leave the room for just us four time but I'm afraid if we call my mil she won't get the hint that it's time to leave (like she does at our house on normal visits) so is it wrong to make her last with such a small family to begin with? I know the answer really its our choice not hers but wanted to ask and rant a bit. My husband is on my side 100% about waiting too or doing it how I want.