Valentine's Day Ruined. Overreacting?

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Okay... To start off, I'm 10w3d. Needless to say, I'm exhausted all the time, feel sick, and need rest. It's 1:57am right now. Earlier, my hubby and I were hanging out with some friends. Around 1:00am we left to go home. We live with his mother and her fiancé in a 3 room house. So it's a pretty decent size, right? Well, they got home from being out drinking around 1:30am. His mom was DRUNK. BAD. Which is okay. But when they came in, she was like," We have a couple coming over in a few minutes and we're going to have a 4-some!" We didn't wanna be around that or hear it. Considering it's his mother, I mean... Really. So we left and came back to our buddies house. Are here right now as we speak.

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My problem is... I'm so irritated by this and I'm not sure if I'm overreacting? I just wanted to be able to go home, cuddle, and eventually fall asleep with my husband. Instead, we end up leaving again because that's not necessarily something we wanna be around to hear in the room across the hall while trying to sleep. I mean, couldn't they have done this at an earlier time, or even gotten a hotel for the night? I know we share a home, but respect is definitely supposed to be a mutual thing and I feel like that was not the most respectful thing named in the "Book of Respect." Lol. Ugh! Response ladies? Please tell me I'm not crazy... 🙄

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Personally, I don't think you're overreacting at all. I would have probably lost my sh*t also being 10 weeks pregnant, but I need to be in control of my personal space (I've never worked well with roommates). Is this something that will happen once baby is here? However the situation is not in your favor. You're not on the lease, and it's her home. If I was in your shoes, I would seriously be evaluating my living situations. I hope it all works out for you guys!!

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You're not overreacting it would piss me off too, imagine if it was the other way round, I'm sure she would be the same. I bet she regrets it and feels silly in the morning, make sure you make her feel embarrassed and I doubt she will do it again!

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I think its inconsiderate regardless if she owns the home or not u pay bills and rent too. Ultimately yes it is her house and she can do what she wants but I would personally have more consideration for my roommates and I think its very disrespectful that u guys are family and she would have a 4some with u guys in the next room like if you can't hear what's going on, to me that's gross! People can do what ever they want in their own room/house that they are paying for yes but some things you just don't do out of respect and consideration for other people ad for yourself,, but not everyone thinks that way!

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Maybe it's time to find a nice solo place for you guys! That would of been the nail in the coffin for me

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Eh omg his mum actually told you that omg that would seriously freak me out errr just the thought of it , seriously hunni you are not overreacting and if i were you i would be looking for somewhere else to live, hunni you dont need that when youre pregnant, do you have to live there i mean is it out of choice or circumstances, good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and i hope its a lot less stressfull than this sounds☺️

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I'm sorry but if you all don't own the home, then you are over reacting. If its his mom's home, then she can do whatever she wants in her own home.

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I don't think your overreacting! My SO would go mad if it was his Mother, so would I. If you share the bills it's your home too, they should have considered going to the other couples house if they haven't got people staying with them. Her and the fiancé should consider your twos feelings!

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Lol. A 4some. Go mom go... that's balls. Sorry for you though!

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Until you're in your own place you get to live your life according to someone else's dictation. Sucks, been there, only fix was to move out on our own.

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Well it depends its her house too and she was just giving you a heads up. And if you've had sex in the house while they where home or sleeping then your defiantly overracting. But it's her Valentine's Day too and maybe she just wanted to make sure you knew and didn't barge in on them. And you guys could of gotten a hotel for the night too.

Valentine's Day Ruined. Overreacting?

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