For those who believe love is hard work sometimes....

So I was raised by parents who have now been married for over 30 years, who had parents themselves now married over 70 years. I was always told not to marry for love, but to marry someone I can make it work with, through thick and thin. My parents explained that love changes, it fades at points, and grows stronger over the years than seems possible...whats most important is choosing a partner who will honor the committments they made to you (and vice versa) through the hard times as much as during the good.

So now I find myself here. Pregnant with my first (2nd trimester) and about to be going it alone. My SO says he doesn't love me. Doesn't know if he ever has. He tries but he doesn't want to try anymore. Deep down he knows he doesn't want to be with me. It hurts, to say the least. We've done big things together, faced enormous obstacles and come out on top. What's more, we prayed for this baby, and for this life we have...together. I feel betrayed. Was everything a lie? Did he really never love me? Is he just scared of whats to come and getting cold feet on me?

My real question is this: if it were you, would you let him go and start all over? Or would you fight for your love and your marriage? Would you get help from an outside source? How much would you fight for him before you just gave up and accepted that he wasn't going to fight for you? In desperate need of some advice. Especially from those who believe in making it work no matter what comes about....