Although the I have some issues with my mom, I'm still close to her. Iv seen how she is with my nieces and she is an amazing grandmother. I'd trust her with my child 100% and I'd take all guidance into consideration. She is not pushy and she is very understanding to new mothers. My mother in law in the other hand. She is a lovely woman. I care deeply for her but she has this idea in her head that I will be in her house constantly when the baby arrives. And that she will be the one minding the baby all the time. She hasn't cared for s baby in 29 years, she hates her home been messy and doesn't listen to what I have to say. But the only person I can vision taking care of and helping me is my own mother. I know they are both the grandmothers but my mom is my mom. So of course I trust her judgement and guidance more. So I guess I want to know if I'm just been mean without realising? Or is this normal? So all comments welcome.    

Thank you in advance.