Support

Kallie
Since I found out my boyfriend refuses to talk about the baby. I am still early in the first trimester, but my mom is supportive if I move back in to her house from my boyfriends parents. He won't tell them because he thinks we will get kicked out. I don't want to lose him or the baby, but I need the support. What do I do? Everytime I try and talk to him I just start crying and he gets mad and thinks I'm breaking up with him....
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Ge

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My partner was exactly the same. I gave it about two weeks to set in before I sat him down (in the car on the way to dinner) and told him exactly how I felt. I started crying, he started crying. I straight out said that if it was causing us this much stress than we should not keep it (my best friend is older and struggling to fall pregnant) and it was at hearing this that he realised that he couldn't just give it away knowing it's his. He admitted he was scared, I told him I was too.16 weeks later, he's more excited and doesn't refer to our little man as "it" anymore.Give it time before you make any big decisions. You might make irreparable damage by just leaving to your mums. Just hold tight, let him digest the news and if in a couple of weeks it's still like this, you can leave for your mums really knowing you've tried.

Gy

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Support (especially for a FTM) is SOOOO important!!! Whatever route you gotta take that leaves you with a support system is my best advice!

Ja

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I would stay at your mums a while. You need support hun! Surely doing this won't make you loose him and if it does then he's not worth staying with. He needs to understand if he cant give you the support you need then your mum will xx

Er

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It literally took about 5 months for my ex to come around to being involved at all. We just reconciled a few days ago after not speaking since September and now he's wanting to feel our daughter kick and he's cool with her having his last name. Sometimes it just takes time for the guys.

Re

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Stay with your mom. You will need a lot of support especially the further along you get and when baby arrives. You at least know mom won't kick you out and if he ever comes around he knows where to find you

Fa

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My boyfriend was the same way at first. He didn't really start talking about things until I was about 28 weeks.

Ly

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How old is he? He's probably struggling with the thought of being a dad. It takes some men a little bit to adjust. Give it time, he may come around on his own

Ly

Lyndsey • Feb 21, 2016
Well you have to do what's best for you, especially when it comes to support. If he won't leave his parents house then maybe you can go to your mom's and he can stay where he's at..... he could change his mind

Ka

Kallie • Feb 21, 2016
He is 22, and I'm 20. He won't leave his parents house at all

Ge

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You probably might want to go ahead and move back in with you mom. It's nothing worse then being kicked out and not have anywhere else to go. It would be a better environment for you while being pregnant someone is supporting whether or not your boyfriend is thinking about keeping it. Just think of yourself first and the baby. He will tell them when he ready and I hope it wouldn't be to late