How many people attended your homebirth?

Question

Not including your midwife or doula!

I'm not pregnant yet but we are going to start trying in a few months and I'm dead set on a home water birth! But we live 1500 miles away from home and I really want my mom, sister, and mother-in-law here while I give birth. My last birth was induced at 41+2 and I had an epidural and tore really bad and I was treated like absolute trash by the nurses. And I didn't have any family besides my husband there to support me, so this time I really want my family here!

How many people did you have at your home birth and was it a good number? Or do you have regrets allowing, or not allowing certain people to be there?

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Our family lives far away so we invited my mother and my husband's parents to come for the birth. I labored in the bedroom, and my mother and mother in law would come in every now and then to see how things were going. My father in law never came near the bedroom. Everyone was staying at the house, and I didn't like that, but I loved having everyone around. I ended up needing to be transferred for a vacuum assisted delivery and at the hospital only my mom could be in the room besides my husband and my midwife. I would have loved to have everyone there to welcome the arrival together, but that's just me.

The only issue I had was my inlaws showing up 2 weeks before my due date, because they were so sure I'd have him early, which I didn't, he came at 41+3. So for 3 weeks I was constantly hounded and watched, asked "anything yet?" and having to endure them joking about how "the baby wasn't cooperating." That irritated me to no end. Then for 2 weeks after everyone wanted to hold the baby because "they were leaving soon but I would have the baby to myself soon enough." There were times I actually cried because I just wanted to hold my baby and be alone with him. This time I know I need someone to come to help with our toddler, but I plan to hire a housekeeper to help me with chores, and enjoy those first few weeks. My son's 2nd birthday is in mid August and this baby is due mid to late July so I've invited everyone up for his birthday and to meet the new baby. I don't want to share those first few precious weeks this time.

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I'm not gonna even tell anyone when I go into labor. Too many people can really stress you out and that stops labor. So it will just be hubby with me. After baby is born the next day I'll probably call a few people and call for my "help" to come over. I don't want anyone to visit for a few days until I can get rested back up a bit, and baby gets used to the world a bit too. 😊

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My husband and my best friend. My 3 kids were home but sleeping as she was born at 440am and came too fast to wake them.

I was good with that number. Honestly would have been fine with having another friend or two. But I like having support in that way. Not everyone does.

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Ill hv my hubby,mom,and daughter, 1 or 2 midwives.

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I chose "only husband", but my two kids were sleeping in room plus my midwife and doula were there. My mom wanted to be there but it all happened so fast in the middle of the night that I didn't find the time to call her.

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Only my husband was in the room, but we allowed all immediate family to be there. We were at a birthing center though not home. I didn't allow anyone to come to my house where I did all my laboring, and didn't see any family until after baby was born. My hospital birth we had people in and out the whole day, and looking back, it was annoying.

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My husband and two kids will be attending we won't tell anyone else until a little while after :)

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My husband and my mom, but my mom told me last night she invited my sister (they both live 5hrs away and my sister doesn't have a car so she figured she could get a ride so she could meet baby) I don't mind her being here because I was there for hers, but I don't know how I'll feel that day. My sister had epidural so she wasn't in pain and we were able to talk etc since mine is unmedicated and its my first, I don't know what to expect with the pain and having people around me. I'll probably do most of the laboring in the shower so I might not even notice her.

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My hubby was deployed but my mom and sister were there. My MIL was supposed to be there but she came so early that I think my labor didn't start bc she was driving me nuts. I went into labor the night she left to stay in a hotel.

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