My sex life sucks

I am 9 weeks pregnant and my husband has had 0 sex drive for the past 3 months or so. Some people told me maybe it's because he's afraid to hurt the baby but he knows it won't and he was like this for a bit before I even got pregnant so I know that isn't the case. We have sex once every 10 days or so sometimes we go even longer. Last night I was having super intense sex dreams and even orgasmed in my sleep because i've been so horny and never get sex or anything. Just sucks and he never takes it seriously when I try to talk to him about it. I told him today about my dreams and said we need to have sex some time in the near future and all he said was maybe. I've suggested buying a dildo and he became sorta upset at that idea. So wtf am I supposed to do? Anyone else in the same boat?