I am 10 weeks (and 2 days today! ) and we finally decided to tell our family that we're expecting. My sister in law was really excited and I know it's because she is in her 30s and still can't convince her husband to start a family (this is a different story). And I'm glad that she excited but she's already driving me crazy.

She has been texting my husband all weekend asking if she can throw us a diaper party, if she can watch the baby and if we're going to find out the sex. First of all, I feel like these are questions that she should be asking me, and himtogether, not just him. We're friends. She has my number. He feels the same way because every time he got another text from her he would ask me how to respond.

We're only 10 weeks in, I'm not even thinking about a baby shower or a diaper party. I just want a healthy baby. Oh course we will let her watch the baby. I don't know why that's even a question. But we are both especially bothered by her response when we told her we want to keep everything gender neutral.

He told her that we plan to find out, but we don't know if we're planning to tell anyone. We won't want an abundance of pink and blue. Her response, word for word: "well that's inconvenient. People want to buy you gifts they won't know what to get. So no dresses or sports jerseys? " my husband told her to stick to neutral colors: greens, yellows, reds etc. And that if it's a girl, we will take care of dresses should we choose to buy them, but we see no reason why sports jerseys can't be worn for either sex. Then she replied, "okay whatever" and completely stopped talking to him.

I don't know what's so hard about keeping it neutral. I also feel like she should just abide by our wishes about our child. If the tables were turned, and she wanted us to adhere to gender specific clothing, we would do it no questions asked.

Thoughts and opinions? Could we have handled the situation better? Does anyone have a similar experience with their family members?