I've never had this problem before. My current boyfriend tells me that sex is boring and my vagina walls are loose but his penis isn't the biggest and I don't know if he's really attracted to my body. There is no intimacy outside of the bedroom and hardly inside.  I feel attracted to him and wanting him before sex and then when we start I'm not being please. He is very routine and Still fingers me before sex which I HATE. He's never made me actually cum. My ex husband was the only guy who could.  I start over thinking things during sex. He's 4 years older than me and just tells me I'm not experienced enough. Any advice? I'm willing to try anything.