Foreplay madness

I'm annoyed at myself because I want to be finger ed and eaten but I want his dick after like 5 minutes but never want to tell him that because he NEVER goes down in me or fingers me as often as I suck his dick. So how do I tell him to pretty much time it right without him saying "but you always bitch and complain I don't go down often now you want less?!" Even though I want both !!!