Would you tell your SO the same things you tell your therapist?

Question

I don't have a therapist.. I should lol.  I've had a fucking shitty life tbh. The other night I had a flashback to when I was a little kid. I was hiding in my childhood closet, laying on a pile of clothes. I felt what I did then. The closet was pitch dark and I felt comforted there on the floor, hugging some clothes. That was my safe spot. 
...I've never remembered that before. But all of the sudden I could remember that I had done that in my childhood a thousand times to get away. It made me realize that my depression didn't start at 14, like I thought. It was a childhood tendency of mine to stare out into a pitch black nothing and lay there, feeling nothing, thinking nothing. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs. We tell each other everything. My immediate reaction was to share with him as it came to me, as he was sitting right beside me as I had the flashback. Is that too much to share with someone? I mean I'm sharing this with all of you right now but idk..... Would that be ok to hear from your partner?

Answer

I have PTSD, severe anxiety, and depression from prolonged severe childhood abuse. There's nothing that I tell my shrink that I don't tell my husband. He knows every traumatic detail and is incredibly approve whenever I deal with flashbacks or breakdowns. He's also very understanding of the chronic illness I have due to said trauma. We have no secrets.

Answer

I think if you feel safe and comfortable with him then you should. I am sure he will listen and it might be nice talking to someone.

Answer

I have severe anxiety and manic depression and surprisingly I tell my bf everything even when he doesn't know what to say or when I'm feeling like it's getting really bad and it helps me alot..I've never talked to anyone about my issues before cause everyone would tell me it's for attention.

Answer

It's good that you feel comfortable and want to tell your partner. My whole childhood was terrible so I understand completely. I tell my partner very personal things about my past or flashbacks I have. It helps him understand.

Answer

If I had a therapist... I don't really know. I would probably want to tell my husband the same things I told a therapist, but at the same time I wouldn't. Like I wouldn't want to put any unintentional burdens on his shoulders. If he asked and wanted to hear about it, then yeah I probably would.

Answer

I think it's good to be open with your partner about this stuff,. That story is certainly not the worst thing you could tell somebody, but really it's all up to you. You don't have to tell him everything that you tell your therapist. It all depends on how you're feeling about it. If you want to, go ahead and tell him. If you don't want to, don't feel bad about that.

I remember something similar about my childhood... going to hide under my bed when I was upset.

Would you tell your SO the same things you tell your therapist?

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey