My son was born using forceps and I had three separate 2nd degree tears. I was not even close to ready at the 6 week mark when I got the "all clear" from my doctor. I was terrified when we did try at 9 weeks, but I'm glad we did. It was only uncomfortable at first and certainly not painful. The build up in my head had made it much scarier than it was. It was a huge relief to be honest.

No one should feel pressured to try before they're ready, but at the same time, suggesting you will never have sex again or only to concieve another baby is not a healthy way to approach your relationship with your husband/partner. Afterall, you fell in love with this person and wanted to start a family with him. A baby shouldn't change that.

Sarah