Heartbreak

This is a group for anyone who just either got their heart broken or need advice after a breakup ✨

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Trying to force him to be a part of his kids life

Would you guys try to make your ex partner be a parent when y’all were together he was so tentative and supportive and now that we broke up it’s been almost a week he hasn’t seen/held our daughter. I’m pregnant too and he doesn’t care. Would you guys call him and make the effort to have him check on us or just leave him alone? ☹️

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Last reply Jan 14, 2024

What would you do?

Hi all, in February my love and I decided that the relationship was draining us both. We continued to live together, go to family events and interact as we normally did. Our families joked that we were the only two that believed we broke up. Our relationship became strong, we began discussing marriage and kids again. We discussed giving space to build as individuals but not separating, just back burnering the relationship. In June, he bought the house we were looking at and I moved 40 minutes away to my college town. We continued to spend 3-4 nights a week together. In July, he said he needed space to think all of this through. I agreed and gave him the space. In the meantime, I moved my belongings out of his house including the cats and returned my key. About 3 weeks into him needing to think, I told him I did not wish to continue us. Early September i reached out and I asked him to meet and discuss and he said it wouldn’t change anything for him. I respected that. Last week, he blocked me. Here I am, mid October still in love and wanting to reach out. It has been three months since he said he just needed to think. I have written a letter of all the things I wish I had said. All the things I regret. All the things I wish he knew. Would you send the letter? I truly believe it was all a miscommunication but perhaps I’m delusional. Help.

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Last reply Oct 17, 2023

9 months of hope

I’ve been dating this guy for 9 months and he flew every weekend to see me, we met each others family and even took family vacations together. A few days ago I decided to finally have the conversation of being official (even though in my mind we already were) and after a 3 day conversation he decided he no longer wanted to keep this going as he’s had bad experiences with long distance relationships and broke up what we had.It’s been a few days and after 2 failed engagements, an abusive relationship and this I’ve been having multiple anxiety attacks over the fact that it feels like I’ll never get it right. I’ve been in therapy for years to be able to deal with these things I don’t talk about with anyone else but I really feel like this heartbreak is taking everything out of me. I’m so tired of not being able to sleep or eat. I really miss how at peace I felt before meeting him but I’m so lost right now that it feels like I will never get that back.

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Last reply Oct 2, 2023

Handling heartbreak ?

So it’s 3:49 am and I’m awake eating a bowl of fruit has anyone ever just thought to themselves that heartbreak isn’t all as bad as it seems and that as deeply as we take sometimes is all in our head ? And that we choose how deep we take things especially when it comes to other people. Like for example if we’re walking outside and someone bumps into us they apologize and we move on and forget but what if we looked at heartbreak like that, don’t take it or internalize so deeply because we didn’t cause it how someone treats you is a reflection of who they’re so why internalize.

Handling heartbreak ?
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Last reply Jun 10, 2022

Am

Alot of it is definitely overthinking which some people atriggle to control especially if you have anxiety. It just seems like no matter how many times we go through situations like these that hurt us to our core, it always hurts the same. At least that's how it happens to me. And then you get over it and realize hey that wasn't so bad. But then it happens again and you go through those motions again and again. It's a vicious cycle. I think it's something you learn to cope with better, with age and experience.

So heartbroken

I am so heart broken right now. My bf of 6 years broke up with me and I honestly don’t know what to do. I feel so lost. So broken so alone. He was my best friend. I literally can’t stop crying. I’m so off. Don’t even want to be here anymore. But I think about the people that love me. How can someone who said they love you, just leave you? I don’t understand. It’s so painful. I just don’t know. Why are some people so mean??

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Last reply Dec 1, 2021

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Aww I'm so sorry for you. I know it's hard, and I know it feels like you'll never be okay again but I promise you, you will!! I was in your position only a few months ago, what worked for me was just taking each day as it comes, cry until you can't cry anymore! Feel whatever emotion you need to feel, its the path you need to go down to heal. You will get there day by day. I won't lie and say it'll be easy because it won't. It hurts like hell, but when the day comes that you suddenly realise you haven't cried that day, or you've laughed and smiled more that day, that's when your days will get better. You've got this girl 💗 I'm only a message away if you ever need to talk.

Any advice?

I need some advice. Please be kind because I’mStruggling with my mental health. I was in a 5 year relationship. We broke up earlier this year. I was so devastated and heartbroken. I never felt like this before. He told me he loved me everyday and said he wanted to marry me and promised he would never leave me. But he did. Over the summer, I was so depressed. I started to miss him and wanted to talk to him. I tried texting him and he would be pretty mean to me. He would tell me he didn’t want to talk to me and told me to move on. I just couldn’t understand how he could just leave and hurt me. And that he didn’t miss me or care about me at all anymore ? It just didn’t make sense. I recently found out that he talked shit about meTo a lot of people and made fun of me for calling him and texting him. A lot of people (and these are grown ass people, like in their 40s) say that I’m his crazy ex that won’t let him go. I’m super embarrassed that he talked about me to people and they think of me like that. I have been on dates and I’m trying to move on. But he hurt me so badly. I am in my mid 20s and I get so sad that I’m single and wasted 5 years with him. Any advice ??

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Last reply Oct 26, 2021

still hurts

so it’s been like four months since my ex broke up with me and i still think about him and maybe even cry a little and idk why it’s taking me so long to get over him he hates me and i feel like that’s the worst part that’s delaying my healing process i’m just so sick of being hung up on this guy when we first broke up i wrote all the pros and cons of him and the cons we’re WAYYYYY longer than the pros so it’s like i realize how much of a piece of shit he is why do i still miss him and how fucking long is it going to take until i can go just one day without thinking abt him it kills me everytime i think abt him i swear to god i mean it’s gotten better recently i was a wreck before crying at work, random outbursts of crying when love songs came on just crying every day and every night until i slept and thank god it’s not as bad anymore but it hurts still and i don’t know whyTLTR: why am i still hung up on my bum of an ex?

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Last reply Sep 4, 2021

Relationship Problems

This past October my husband and I had our 4 year wedding anniversary and our 7 year anniversary of being together. The past 3 year or so I have been dealing with mental health and women health issues. Over the last year my husband has begun to constantly take jabs at me. Telling me things like “oh knowing you you’ll never finish that” or blaming me for literally everything. He’s very oblivious to it and tells me to get over myself when I stand up for myself or get mad about it. It has continued to take a toll on my mental state of mind but it scares me to walk away from him I don’t know what to do at this point. Please help.

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Last reply Dec 7, 2020

Did he even really care?

I just got out of a relationship with someone I thought would go a very long way or we’d even possibly get married one day. We talked for a month about what we wanted in a relationship and eventually started dating. EVERYTHING was fine up until the day before he called it. He treated me well and I made sure I took care of him, treated him well and tried to make him happy. When he’d leave clothes at my apt, I’d wash/dry/fold them and bring them to him since he lives on campus at the uni we both attend. I made him breakfast once and even took care of him when he was drunk the night of and day after. Wednesday, the 9th of Sept., we went out to dinner and everything was fine. Thursday he was really short with me and Friday is the day he called it. He agreed to a break bc he said he needed time and I told him that was fine bc i wanted him to be 100% and happy. He told me he’d be back and he loved me and cared about me so much. A few days go by and I don’t hear from him at all which is fine bc he said he needed time. I’m still upset and text my friend who is dating his roommate and I just told her if he’s playing games he needs to stop and if he wants to end it he needs to tell me bc he just agreed to a break. I find out from her later that he told his roommate that he told me he was done when he didn’t tell me that at all. I sent him a text and said “can we talk bc I just want closure.” He calls and I asked him why he didn’t just tell me in the first place and he said he was just confused and didn’t know how to tell me and we talked a little more and that was it. I found out a week later that he was on Tinder and Bumble already about a week after we had split and that was a setback for me bc I thought I meant more to him than that. Did he even really care or was I just a temporary hookup for him until he decided he was done with me? I tried my best to take care of him and make him happy but after finding out he was on Tinder and Bumble a week after we broke up makes me feel like I meant nothing to him. Maybe he didn’t know what he wanted? Will he realize one day that he lost something good? Idk what to even say right now. I just feel like I meant nothing to him.

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Last reply Oct 2, 2020

Can’t get past it

My boyfriend, of pretty much 11 months, broke up with me 4 months ago. I cant get over him and the breakup AT ALL. No matter what i do i still cry myself to sleep every night and then wake up hoping he will come back to me. And now i see him around college and i just wish i could hug and kiss him but i can’t. He broke me, but i still love him. I thought everything was okay until i got this gut feeling something was wrong and then we broke up two weeks later but i just can’t get past it at all. I don’t know what to do and i’m really struggling.

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Last reply Sep 16, 2020

Heart break💔

Why does love hurt so badly? 😥Does anyone have any advice on how to heal from a break up? My boyfriend of two years just ripped out my heart and tore it into shreds 😞

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Last reply Oct 21, 2019

Being heartbroken

So me and my boyfriend been together for 9 months and recently he broke up with me 3 weeks ago, the problem was he felt like it was a long distance kind of thing because we were an hour apart from each other so we would have to pick and choose days when to meet. In beginning he had more free time because he wasn’t working, he was only in college but he started working then our time together was limited, but he was like my best friend my everything, I remember his last words to me was that he wasn’t happy with me anymore and that he had gotten bored, it did something to me you know? Just hearing that come from the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, since we broken up he’s deleted every last memory of me and I kind of started blaming myself as if I had done something wrong, even though he kept saying it wasn’t my fault it still felt like it was, I miss him a lot and we haven’t had any contact within the last 3 weeks. If there’s any advice I would love to hear all feedback, thank you.

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Last reply Oct 2, 2019

Baby heart beat

Ok so I have two girls already and we are really hoping for a boy but the baby’s heartbeat was 172. Do y’all think it can still be a boy or are we expecting another girl? I’m 9 weeks pregnant by the way.

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Last reply Sep 19, 2019

First heart break

So me and my bf broke up three days ago and it is killing inside. The reason we broke up was bc he said that we need to focus on school and then he told me that he does love me and he wants to be with me then he said Ik this is going to be hard but I want you to have fun chase after your dreams if you need anything I’ll be here for you. When I was crying I didn’t know what to say so I just said Ok yeah I know what you mean I hope college goes good and I’m here for you too. I have cried for 3 days straight I keep hoping that maybe he will eventually text me randomly and get back together with me or I get the gut to text him. I know everything happens for a reason and my break up wasn’t as bad as it could have been He told me a while back that he dos give second chances unless he really cares for that person but I’m hoping We really end up together again.

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Last reply Aug 22, 2019

Can we talk about broken hearts

Turns out I was pregnant & I had a miscarriage today , I woke up coved in blood 💔 I wish it was me instead

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Last reply Jun 9, 2019

Break Ups

I hate that I’m pretending to be okay with the girl who broke me and my ex apart. She acts like everything is fine but knows that it’s not. Such a fuckin bitch, let me tell ya. But then again, my insecurities are telling me that she’s a ton prettier than me and I’m worthless. Ugh

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Last reply Jun 25, 2019

So

You’re not worthless. You are beautiful babygirl but you need to believe that yourself. Try taking this time to learn more about yourself and do what you want, now you are no longer in a relationship. Best of luck

Broken

I caught my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years sneaking and trying really hard to cheat right before Valentine's day, I broke up with him of course. Though its not my first breakup by far, it hurts the most because I honestly thought we were getting married. I feel so broken and honestly keep wondering if I'm even worth loving.

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Last reply Apr 3, 2019

Wrote this one last night. Your thoughts? Feedbacks are welcome.

Wrote this one last night. Your thoughts? Feedbacks are welcome.
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Last reply Mar 4, 2019

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I love it...it describes how I feel rn

Feeling so heart broken

Me and boyfriend of 9 months have decided that we just aren’t happy anymore. We’ve both had things going on and we seem to have drifted apart so after a ton of thoughts and countless conversations we’ve decided to call it off. It wasn’t an easy decision for either of us. We’ve both shed a few tears. We both still love each other we just feel like we need to let each other go. We need to go find our own happiness again. I seem to be taking it the hardest obviously because I’m a very sensitive person but we both believe it’s for the better. Sometimes loving each other doesn’t keep you together. Sometimes you just drift apart.

Feeling so heart broken
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Last reply Jul 26, 2019

Na

Omg I feel u on this 😭💔

:’( any advice?

:’( any advice?
TMI
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Last reply Jan 22, 2019