Hey guys,

I am wondering what you guys would do if your partner received a message like this?

I could write a book on all the narssasistic abuse we have endured over the years from my partners parents. I know without context it’s hard to understand why someone would send such a disgusting message. However this is what we get when ever we try address anything, set boundaries, question the lies they have accused me of.

I know for a fact my children will never see their grandparents again. But I worry for my partner. The psychological abuse he has had to endure since he was a child. Has anyone else had to deal with narcissistic parents or there partners have that can share some advice on healing?

“ I think you have been psychologically conditioned for years to be an enforcer of someone else’s will to control their environment - manipulated - a form of ‘Stockholm-Syndrome’.

There is a real need for deep self awareness and reflection - self healing.

None of your blood family want to lose you, we all love you very much but not sure how we can help without getting caught in a quagmire of complex deep-rooted sociopathic dynamics.

I hope you can one day see how you have been and getting used as a tool of enforcement and control. The objective (end goal) behind these behaviours is hard to fathom but one thing is clear it’s not going to result in some form of war having been conquered. Maybe 🤔 winning this ‘war’ is about you being successfully detached from all your friends and family - manipulated to think we are the ‘bad guys’.

This is my best effort to try understand and reach out to your inner self… I do not know what else to do. My concern for all this is shared evenly between you all. I’m sincerely fearful for you and your kids futures.”

Women of New Zealand 🇳🇿