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Okay so... My boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me with a girl. I have no idea who she is because he won't tell me , but he did tell me that she was pregnant and on top of that I'm pregnant too. I haven't told him that I was because I don't want him to think I maliciously got pregnant on purpose. He has been telling since last year that he wants to start a family, but I wanted to get married first , but he wasn't ready ( not sure if he was cheating , but that probably had something to do with it now that I look back and on the situation) but two years before this I had a miscarriage. That really broke me. I had to go to concealing and everything. But skipping back I'm really frustrated, angry and still in love with this man. And I still wanna be here because I want my family back , but NOTHING will ever be the same anymore now that two other people have been added I don't know what to do.. I'm open for you opinions

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If he would cheat he doesn't love you.. I would leave him, have the baby, let your hormones and emotions settle and see if you still want him.

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If you have a daughter, would you tell her that it's okay to stay in a relationship with a cheat? Because, if you do have a daughter, you're going to have to explain to her one day why her sibling is the same age as her from a different woman and she's going to know her father cheated.  She may think that sort of behavior is acceptable of her future partner. Now that you're going to have a child, every life choice you make, you're making for them as well. Just something to think about and take into consideration.

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If you want to stay and honey sky feel that you can accept an outside child, stay! Remember that the other baby is innocent and didn't ask to be here. Either way you will have to deal with him in some sort of fashion.  If you're religious, pray on it. If not, sleep on it! Think it through and weigh your pros and cons. Don't make hasty decisions until you're sure. Hope this helps!

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I feel like u should have your baby first and wait until your emotions are stable before u take back a non trustful man who will bring u heartache and another lil person along with a baby mama whew girl that's alot of baggage and would u really ever feel like a real family again knowing it could all fall apart and also have your baby see all of that make out a pro con list and keep in mind ur very emotional and raw right now in my opinion I couldn't take him back bc I'd have no respect for him and everytime I'd see other child it would remind me of betrayal good luck to you and try to stay stress free for your baby sake bc u have already lost so much and this is the one good thing and best part of this man who did all this to u

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In my opinion if they cheat ditch him cuz he will figure he did it once and you stayed so why not do it again. Plus the other girl will always be in his life regarding the baby as will you.  You don't want a relationship based on a lie or based on lack of respect. Props to him if he told you about the cheating however you need to decide what kind of life you want  for you and your baby. I would have trust issues after that and that is not healthy for any relationship.  As for telling him about your baby I would make your decision before telling him..and stand your ground.  Be safe and congratulations on your sweet pea!

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First of all I'm SO sorry that you're in this situation. Guys can be the worst.
Did he say why he cheated? Or how long it's been going on? Because those things matter.
If he cheated because he was bored, that matters! You wouldn't want to go back because he could do it again.
If he cheated because he was drunk and stupid, it still matters! And at that point it's honestly up to you.
If it was a one night stand, it would be easier to forgive.
But if it has been going on for a while, you better leave right then and don't look back. Because that makes him a low life piece of shot (no offense).
I hope it all works out for you, I know how scary it can be thinking that you'll be all alone taking care of a tiny human but I promise you you can do it if you need to.

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