Ex can't decide on his own????

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My ex and I have twin sons together and he's in a relationship with this woman for over a year. They started dating right around the time we broke up. Anyway I hate her. She's always trying to make it seem like they're the happy family and she's already got three kids. It pisses me off that he doesn't seem to be able to make any decisions without her. I know it's because of her that he took me to court to get joint custody of our kids. For example we just went to mediation and I got everything I wanted.....to be the primary parent and he can have visitation Friday at noon to Monday at noon just like we been doing then he goes home to her and suddenly changed his mind. He's going back on what he said in mediation and is back on to getting joint legal and physical custody and is refusing the days we've been doing saying it's not fair to him to have to them every weekend and I get the weekends free. He's come up with a different schedule where it will be totally 50/50 and I know that bitch was behind all of it. How can I get him to see that WE should be making decisions about the boys, not her?!?!😡😡. We was together 5 years and she turns up and I don't even know him anymore. It just hurts and makes me angry. I wish I had never met him or had kids with him but I love my babies. Just wish he wasn't their sperm donor. I wish I could just keep my kids home away from that bitch that ruined my family.

Update:  I'm not jealous. I wouldn't take him back if he came back on his hands and knees this very second. The only good thing about this woman is that she's got money. How would you feel if the love of your life basically left you for money?  As far as I'm concerned all she's good for is buying shit for my kids which I know she is because his ass hadn't had a job since Jan 2015 and now claims he's in school.

And HELLO!.. I use the days they with him to WORk not party!

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Sounds to me like he's got someone who has his back because you sound like you'd run rough shod over him. I say this all the time on here ....just because you're not together kids still deserve to know both parents. Sounds like your ex wants equality and that he's making decisions taking his SO in consideration, so he can't be that bad. JS

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If she encouraged him to see his children more great for him.   50/50 is fair for the kids.  It doesn't seem like she did any thing wrong to you.  You should be happy for him and that he has a women's that's going to treat your children well when they are there.  Instead of hating on the situation try and be a team together.

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You sound reaaallllly bitter. I sense jealousy. 
Like is this even about your kids? Or the fact that he's in another relationship?

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I don't want to sound like I'm being rude...

But you should be happy he wants to see his boys as much as he does. If she was such a bitch she'd be surely taking him away from them? It sounds to me like she's trying to be fair to the kids, and to her partner for going 50/50...

I don't think you need to stop resenting him when he's doing what is his right -  seeing his sons. I'm sorry if that means you probably won't get every weekend free, but kids time wth dad is more important

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I actually wish my ex wanted to see our kids 50/50 he doesn't want to see them AT ALL it's sad as I'm the one who is left with the extremely difficult task and try come up with a story as to why they haven't seen their daddy

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My boyfriend has 2 kids from his previous marriage. We have lived together for a year and a half. Every decision about OUR lives is made together by BOTH of us. We have almost 60/40 joint custody with us having the 60. As for who pays for things why is that any of your concern or business? The only people that concerns are them. You say you're not jealous but you surely sound it. It's people like you that give coparenting a bad rap. You need to look inside yourself and find the problems instead of projecting them on this other women who is clearly trying to help with your children.

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Why shouldn't he have 50/50 and what's wrong with him wanting to have a weekend off as well... They've been together for a year it's not been a few weeks... You just said we went mediation and I got everything my way... Maybe he went home and realised wait a minute thats not actually what I want. Maybe he did it on his own or maybe she convinced him either way its none of your business what conversation they had at home, your only concern is making arrangements that suite you and HIM! Not getting everything you want

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Almost 5 years ago I was dating this guy and his bm stopped letting his daughter come over for visits and things like that so I encouraged Tf outta him to file for joint custody and get his rights . She hated me talked all kinda shit called me everything you could think of even belittling me infront of their child . Now he is my husband me and my step daughter have the most amazing bond we get her all the time 🤗 but as for her mom 😳🤔 she's still just a bitter baby mom miserable because she knows she coulda been in my shoes but fucked up 😩😂 
Moral of the story: start growing up now and try to be a bigger person cuz that bitter shit will have your kids resenting you and you'll remain miserable af while them and ya ex loving a bitch like me 😽😂

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You sound ungrateful and immature. Your kids STEPMOM is buying stuff for your child and encouraging your babyfather to step up more and be a good dad and you over here all MAD....Grow up and get over it. She seems happy with her new family.

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You sound bitter. You should try to focus all your bitterness in improving your self so you can also one day you have the money to provide for your kids.

Ex can't decide on his own????

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