Wife with low sex drive and sex hurts her.

I'd just like to see if any other women out there are like this and have any suggestions or tips etc. 
My wife and I have been together for three years and love each other more than anything, but having sex can be very frustrating. She has a very low sex drive to begin with, so I always have to instigate it. She is just not interested in it at all. We only have sex a couple times a month... If that. 
Also, anytime we do have sex, it hurts her A LOT. To the point where sometimes we just have to stop right in the middle. She's been tested and there is nothing wrong with her, doesn't matter how much lube we use or how slow I go. It always hurts. 
It's frustrating because I have a very high sex drive, but I respect her and don't push it. 
Anyone else out there had similar experiences?

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