*What should I do?

Question

*Im 16
So my boyfriend and I have had phone sex/mutual masturbation whatever you want to label doing it over the phone as lol, we send naughty text messages and nudes, and we tease each other by touching each other's stuff in public or something.

I've always been viewed as a good girl so doing all this stuff makes me feel bad. I'm also a Christian so I really feel bad for doing these things. I'm in a weird situation though. Like my hormones are driving me to do those things while my mind and common sense is telling me I shouldn't be doing those things. I want to stop doing those things with my bf and be that innocent girl again. What do I do?

Answer

I started dating my boyfriend when we were 14. Eventually we started doing things and I felt the way you were feeling because I thought that God wouldn't want me doing anything besides kissing. 
The great thing is, you can talk with your boyfriend and tell him that although you were okay with it in the past and you do like it, you want to stop. This will help him to hold you accountable and refrain from doing the things you think are wrong. 
As time progressed in our relationship I prayed about it and decided certain things would be okay, and I let my boyfriend know that I had changed my view. 
We're 20 now and we do a lot more physical things (responsibly of course, and we are both adamant about waiting until marriage for sex). 
My biggest advice to you is to pray about it, often. Before you allow something to happen, ask God about it. I did this gradually and now the things I do with my boyfriend I feel absolutely no guilt about. The things I still do not feel okay with doing, he is fine without. 
Whatever you do, don't keep doing something if you feel guilt. Physicality should be enjoyable and loving, not a guilt-filled experience.

Answer

If you're feeling guilty that's a pretty good sign to stop and take a step back. You obviously want to stop, or at least slow things down so that's a great start. I think you need to reflect on your own personal limits, what you will and won't do with this guy. Then once you know exactly what you want you should talk to him about it and see if he agrees and wants to compromise. This might take a few conversations, especially if he isn't Christian and hasn't had much exposure to celibacy.

But remember, you never have to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. It's neber to late to turn back. If he doesn't agree, refuses to stop being sexual, or gets angry at you, then you know he isn't worth your time. You know someone truly loves you when they sacrifice sex/sexual things to make you happy. Goodluck

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