Need advise!!

My boyfriend doesn't care if I'm wet when we have sex and he doesn't even try to make me wet all he does is wet his fingers put it on my Virginia and pushes in...its starting to hurt but I don't think he gets it cause all he says is take it. And when ever he's done touching me he washes his hands but he's never done that after sex its only when he touches my clit and stuff sometimes he just makes me feel so disgusting