My boyfriend doesn't love me.

After 4.5 years I realize that he doesn't really love me. I always go to events with him and with his friends but he never wants to go anywhere with me and my family. He says I don't have to go with him and his family which hurts because of you love someone you should want them there with you. Idk what to do .. I love him but I don't feel lime he loves me the same or as much or even at all? He never does any favors for me even if I beg.