Will it ever stop... 😢

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...hurting so DAMN badly?

I miscarried my daughter at 15 weeks on 4/10/16 as a result of an incompetent cervix. The doctors didn't want to do a cerclage because I was having moments of bleeding. They also said it was my first pregnancy and they had no history to determine cervical incompetence.

Sometimes I think I'm ok and then I lose it. I can't even breathe. Right now I can't stop crying. It feels like the first day all over again. I didn't realize how much I loved this baby until I had to grieve for her. I don't know if I'm going to make it. Something inside of me just hurts SO badly.

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I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I had mine March 14th at 17 weeks. It was horrific.  It took weeks to feel better. I did a few things. Talked on here and to everyone else. I made a memorial picture of her and put it in a frame..so an ultrasound pic and a baby bump pic. I've also organized getting a rock engraved for my garden. I love to garden and we named her violet. Then I decided that in order to feel better I had to like my body again. So I'm distracting myself with healthy clean eating and exercise...Gardening being one of them. I have my moments but I'm holding strong lately.  I have a 2.5yr old son who keeps me busy as well. We want to try again when I'm ready but I need to feel better. I hope you can find some avenues to help you heal. Take one day at a time....I eventually got out of my pj's ;) ♡

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It doesn't ever stop but it gets less difficult.  Do something special in memory of her and don't be afraid to talk about it. Being able to talk about it is part of the healing process. I'm sure you've heard all the typical lines already. Just take what time you need.

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It never stops hurting, this isn't something you get over. Eventually it gets easier to live with. I lost my son 4/25/15 and I still have times where all I feel is intense grief.

This quote really spoke to me. Perhaps you or other mamas will find truth and comfort in it as well -
"Grief can be a burden, but also an anchor. You get used to the weight, how it holds you in place."

Sending love to you, mama. Even though it doesn't seem like it - you got this.

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I'm sorry for your lost. I had a miscarriage on 3/11/16 and it still hurts so much up to this day.. Sometimes I'm fine and other days I'm paralyze with pain. It'll get better but it Takes time. I hope you feel better. 😌😌

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Elle, I am so sorry for your loss and can definitely feel your pain and saddness. I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks and was devastated. It was our first child. It took me 3 months to be back at some level of "normal". This happened in August 2015 and I still get emotional sometimes about it. Allow yourself the space and time to grieve and heal. Be patient and loving to yourself knowing that although it hurts so badly right now there will be better days ahead. You will always carry your angel in your heart and think about her but your life will move forward. Prayers for peace and strength during this dark hour. Be encouraged.

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I'm in the same situation as you MMC at 18 weeks on 4/7. D&E on 4/12. Sometimes I feel fine like I'm moving forward. Other times I can't breathe my heart aches so bad. Just know that there will be good days and bad days. Don't be afraid to look ahead. My husband has been the best support I could ask for by reminding me of what we have to look forward to. Lots of hugs and love sent your way xoxox ❤️

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I'm so sorry for your loss, Elle. ❤️ I understand exactly how you're feeling. I lost my baby girl at 18 weeks on March 7th. The first couple weeks were the worst and I had no idea how I would get past this and function normally. A month and a half later, I can tell you that it does get better. Time does heal but the heart never forgets. Most of the time work keeps me busy, but the waves of sadness still come and go. I try to stay off social media because of all the baby and preggo posts. I have three friends currently pregnant and I haven't talked to them much:( It's like they don't know what to say.. and I don't want to see them honestly. No one can say anything to make me feel better. But it's nice to know people support you. I like coming on glow for the support because of other women who have gone through similar situations. It's kinda therapeutic to talk about it you know?

My doctors still can't tell me exactly why I had this late miscarriage. It's frustrating not knowing why and also feeling scared about future pregnancies.

Just know that your
 angel baby will always be with you. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my angel at almost 20 weeks, this was back in 1992. The pain is still there,  but yes it does become less with time.  The worst dates are the day my angel went to heaven and her due date.  I always write her a little note on those days, that helps me deal with it.  Good luck to you and many blessings.

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I'm so sorry for your loss and I understand 100%. We just lost our daughter do to an incompetent cervix on 2/29/16 @ 23+5. It hurts so much. She will forever be missed. We named her Penelope Jean. Some days hurt a little less try to be strong. I too feel eating healthy and working out helps a lot or atleast is a great distraction.

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I miscarried the same day as you. I was 10 weeks. I am so sorry for your loss. Some days are worse than others. I cried myself to sleep last night, but there are days I don't cry at all anymore. Take care of yourself and take your time to grieve. Time will heal but we will always be scarred by this tragedy.

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