Infertile with a fiancé. Please help.

I have been engaged to my fiancé for three weeks. He is the love of my life and I want to give him everything in the world. Unfortunately, I can't. I just found out yesterday I'm infertile and the chances of me conceiving are 0. I'm heartbroken. I honestly don't know what to do. I know I have to tell him but I'm afraid it will change our relationship. We talk about how we're going to get a house together and have two children, a boy and a girl, that are going to have his eyes but my smile and brown curls......and ugh. I just can't. I stayed at my mother's house last night because I couldn't even stand to look at him. I told my fiancé it was because my mom's going through a divorce and she needed support. Today when he came from work I nearly burst down crying. Right now he's taking a shower and I know I need to tell him before he goes to bed but I don't even know how to start. I haven't even told my mom yet. Glow ladies please help.
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Co

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Just be honest. Just Bc you can't have kids physically yourself doesn't mean you can't have children. There are still so many options. A serogate. Or adoption. Fostering. Etc. Express your desire to have kids.  Also nothing is 100% accurate. I had dear friend who was told she would never have kids. So she never used protection.  Well.  She now has two beautiful kids. 

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I wish I had some comforting words for you but unfortunately I just cannot fathom how you are feeling right now. First and foremost I am so sorry about this news. Secondly, you need to just come out and say it. He needs to know and you need somebody to go through this with you. He is probably the only person in the world who can comfort you right now and this is not something you should have to go through alone. 

El

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You have to tell him, yes. But while it may be difficult, there are still a lot of options out there. Depending on WHY you're infertile, you can look at ivf, or surrogates, or wait a few years and who knows what medical advancements might happen.

wi

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As a woman with fertility issues as well I can tell you I know exactly how you feel. I may have to get a hysterectomy and I'm only 23... That being said you need to tell him as soon as possible but don't be mad. If you two truly love each other things will work out and as much as it sucks to hear there are other options. When I told my husband about my issues and that we may never conceive he wrapped me in his arms and told me "I love you. Everything will be Ok. I am never leaving you." His next thing was at least we can have fun trying... If it turns out I am never to have kids of my own we may just adopt or travel and live a life for just us two. Either way I know he loves me and will be by my side no matter the outcome. And your s/o will too but the sooner you tell him the better.

Ha

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Say all of what you just wrote. He should understand.

Br

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Just sit down with him and tell him. He asked you to marry him for a reason. He loves you for who you are. You will go through all problems and great moments together. You will be able to figure this out together. 

Ar

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You are completely valid in all your feelings, and I'm so sorry you are going through this. What you are dealing with is hard, so please don't go through this alone. You have a fiance that loves you and will be beside you giving you support through this. Let him be there for you. I know it's devastating, but talking about it with the person you love most in this world will help. Tell your fiance and together think of a new future - one as full and happy as what you originally imagined, just now with a different journey.If, however, he is unable to be there for you, lean on your mother and friends for the support you need and deserve. You are strong and brave, and I know you can make it through this challenging time. Plus, the Glow community and I will be here for you every step of the way!