How would you feel about waiting to have sex with someone until after you both had been tested?

Question

I know a few people who swear by this rule. If they've got a new boyfriend (or girlfriend, as the case may be), they hold off on sex until they both get the clean bill of health. But I always thought it'd be an awkward conversation to have. Though I suppose that if you're afraid of an awkward conversation, you probably shouldn't be having sex anyway...and, if your prospective partner couldn't deal with that, they probably aren't very good SO material anyway.

What do you think?

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I think getting a sti would be way more awkward than saying "hey no sex till I see papers saying you're clean". I'm not putting my health at risk to have sex a few days sooner.

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It's not an awkward conversation at all!
If you can have sex you should be able to talk about it. Especially if you're having unprotected sex, it's good to make sure the other person is clean so you don't have to worry about it. Don't feel weird asking, it's perfectly normal.😊