My stepdaughter called me, hysterically crying, telling me her boyfriend broke up with her because he found out that she had cheated on him for the first few months of their relationship with an older man. She said that if he wont take her back she cant live there anymore.. she would quit school and move with us.

I told her I was sorry about the breakup and that hopefully she could get him to trust her again. She asked me "How would you do it? How would you get him to trust you again?"

I was honest with her and told her that regardless what she does... he may be done. The lying and the cheating may be too much for him to get over. I told her that she needs to be completely honest with him and ask him... ask him what she needs to do to make him feel more secure in their relationship. I also told her that whether or not they get back together.. school is WAY too important to just drop out because their relationship didnt work out.

She told me "Ugh.. I should have known better than to call you. I dont know what I was thinking."

I just cant win.. Im tired of being treated like a damn imbecile by this young woman. Thats what she is, she is almost 18 and she has just continuously gotten.more and more hateful towards me. It was never like this when she was little.. but since she hit 15 she has just been so mean and hurtful.

She lives with her mother and has no curfew, no rules, she does not have to be accountable for her actions. When she is with us.. there are rules. Rules that she doesnt like eventhough they are common sense rules and gets pissed because I expect her to follow them.. so does her father.

Was my advice wrong? Should I not have emphasized how important school is?

I remember what its like to be 17.. I remember my first heartbreak.. I just dont know 😔