Please help..

I am a ftm and 33w pregnant. My baby's father left when I was 26w pregnant. He is a convicted felon (for drugs) and is on parole for at least 5 years. He has anger issues and thretens me. He makes me feel so worthless and like I won't be able to do this alone. I've tried to get him help and work things out for the baby but he went off the deep end when he left. He's threatening to get custody when the baby is born. I've done everything on my own for the baby and paid for everything. He lost his job and doesn't have a place to live. I had to contact the police the other day because of threats and am afraid of retaliation for it. I don't want my baby to be around him with his problems with drugs and anger issues..
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Ch

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I wouldn't worry about him getting custody that won't happen in a long shot by any means so do t worry yourself about that. If you can if go somewhere you fee safe at around family or close friends just keep as much distance between you two as possible. 

Ly

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Get a restraining order ASAP. And don't worry about his threats no judge would grant his sorry ass custody x ❤

Je

Jess • May 30, 2016
agreed. men can be stupid and they think threatening all this will scare you. in reality I bet if he is as bad as this sounds, and you go to court no way in hell any judge would give him any custody At least not without supervision. contact a lawyer in your area and start talking to them just to be prepared. also you can start recording any conversations, saving texts, getting copies of any police reports, etc.

J

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It's hard to get custody of a child with a drug problem, but he would be due visitation if he is the father. I would be shocked if he showed up for that from what you say. You can make the process longer and harder for him by leaving his name off the birth certificate. He would have to prove paternity first before he could do anything. And if you can, maybe you should move?

Va

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Your the mother regardless if you have a good lawyer the courts are gonna give you your baby if hes not living with you file a restraining order and go to court put him on child support and you can go and be safe because you sound like an amazing mom who just ended up with a bad guy I wish you the best of luck and stay strong I recommend staying with a friend if your scared he's going to hurt you...

Ca

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No way on earth he would get custody, so don't fret about that. As long as you are a "fit" mother, you should be fine.