Where do I go from here?

Question

Yesterday I woke up bleeding. I called the nurse line and went straight to the emergency room even though the app told me "spotting is normal" I just didn't want to chance anything. They did an ultrasound and blood work and made me drink water till I was doubled over in pain because I had to pee so bad and then a vaginal ultrasound. When the finally let me go pee my "spotting" was a gush of blood I thought I would clog their toilet if I put even one more tissue in there. Then they did it again. More water just to have another ultrasound followed by me getting to pee again this time when I sat down my legs were stained red with blood all the way down to my knees. They then did another vaginal ultrasound followed by me sitting in the room for a long time crying by myself (they wouldn't let my husband be with me except for a few minutes between the second and third ultrasound) only to say "the technician had to get a second opinion and they decided there was no life" they handed me a paper that said "incomplete miscarriage" and said if I bleed heavily to come back and showed me the door... Where do I go from here? I am so lost and upset and I don't know what to do besides sit here and cry what should I expect to happen to my body? I don't know where to turn to for answers... Yesterday I was 11 weeks and 2 days today I am nothing

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ER can be very insensitive.  I'm so sorry you had this experience.  I went to the ER Sunday for pain due to miscarriage and they tried to tell me I probably wasn't pregnant to begin with, then asked me why I came in a thousand times.  I was ticked!  I sat for two hours having contractions without pain medicine.

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I am so sorry. I lost my baby yesterday. I felt the same as you. Lost. I went to the ER once for heavy bleeding. They said I had a subchoronoid hematoma. I bled all week. Now this past Sunday I went to the ER after talking to my doctor. They blamed the pain on a UTI. They did an ultrasound and my baby was fine. Strong heartbeat and was moving around. They showed me the door and sent me on my way even with my pain and heavy bleeding. They said the baby is fine but we don't know where the bleeding is coming from. After being home 30 minutes I had to call 911 because the pain was unbearable and there was so much blood. I ended up passing my baby in the ambulance on the 3 minute ride to the hospital, that felt like forever. I was 13 weeks with a healthy living baby. 30 minutes later my baby is laying in a kidney basin and mommy having to say goodbye. 👼🏽 until now I have no answers. They can't explain how I lost my baby. All the ER said was that sometimes the body rejects the pregnancy and that's all they can think happened.

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I am so sorry you are going through this.  I had a miscarriage in April, I was about 8 weeks along.  My ultrasound showed that I had not passed the sac, so my doctor told me to wait a couple days and if my bleeding didn't get heavier than to call back, because I would likely need a d & c.  However, soaking several pads in an hour would require immediate attention.  My bleeding picked up so I did not need the procedure. I bled for about two week. However, I had to go get blood drawn once a week until the hgc level was five or lower.  It took about two weeks, then I got a pretty painful period five weeks after the miscarriage.   That was my experience, and it was pretty  errible.....emotionally.....you are not alone!  I felt so empty, sad, devastated, but time helped me.  I am still sad but it doesn't consume my thoughts anymore. Again, I am so sorry.

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