I keep feeling this urge inside of me to just ask for a divorce. Long story as short as I can make it: we started TTC in January of 2015 had a
MC in May 2015, he told me he wanted to stop trying for a bit in October 2015 then didn't pull out and ended up in another MC in November 2016. He decided to go back to school to change his career path but since then he's been very selfish and basically anything we do in our lives, be it day to day or planning our future revolves around what he wants and my opinion/thoughts never matter. After the MC in November (which had so many complications) I asked him repeatedly if he was sure he wanted to keep trying. He said yes over and over. But then I get test results saying I have a gene mutation (Heterozygous MTHFR) his first response to the results was saying we should wait until he's done with school (summer 2018) I told him I was scared to wait that long as I'll be 30/31 and I'm already having a hard time while still in my mid-late 20's. But that means nothing to him. Anyway we eventually spoke to the dr's and all agreed August of this year would be best. So last night we had yet another conversation and he tells me he can't say for sure if he'll be ready in August and he can't give me any timeline. So it's now pushed to opening the conversation again in May 2017. I feel like I have no control over my own body let alone my own future. He's back and forth too much. My emotions can't handle it. The worst part for me is that he doesn't consider what I've gone through trying to give us a child. He just thinks about what will be best for him. I can't keep putting my life on hold for him. It's not beneficially for me. It just hurts me and hurts our relationship. So I'm thinking maybe separating will be best for now. Am I being dramatic ?? Should we take a breather from the relationship? I'm so lost. My heart is torn. I'm terrified if I wait too long I may never have a child of my own. But he can always have a child of his own later in life.
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