Parenting Style

Sounds like what a good mother would do :) everyone is going to have their judgements and opinions...you will know what your baby needs and just how much affection n attention is needed. I dont believe you can cause any harm or disfunction to baby by doing the things you listed. Do not stress :)

I agree with you. I'm doing things different this time no feeding schedule, I will only allow baby to self sooth if there is nothing I can do for her such as feeding changing etc. Baby will be close to me but not sleeping with me,I co slept with my first and it was horrible trying to get him out of my bed once he was older.

Well babies thrive off getting into routines. Also allowing them to self sooth is something they benefit from too. That's just my personal opinion though. Getting a baby on a schedule helps insure they're both eating and sleeping right as well as preparing them for other milestones. As for self soothing, well that's one of the very first steps to baby independence. For them to learn that they don't need to be held every moment of the day. Every parent is different.. this is just my take on the things you touched on.

Do what works for your family and child. You don't even have to stick to one parenting method just go day by day.

I have a daughter who's three weeks old and I'm doing things the same way you're planning to. She goes by her own schedule when it comes to feeding. She sleeps in a bassinet right night to me (we plan to move her into her room at three months). And we soothe her when she's crying since she really only cries when she is hungry or needs a diaper change. Things will change as she gets older but for now she's a baby. It is a big scary adjustment coming out of such a protected place and into our world. We want to make her feel just as protected out here.

Same method of parenting style I chose and my 3 other children turned out just fine, they're 10, 12, 14 I don't have any regrets. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and everyone has their own style of parenting.

Your baby, do what YOU want 

No matter what anyone says, it is not possible to spoil a newborn.  Do what makes you feel most comfortable.  I'll be taking a similar approach.

Just have the baby and go from there you never know what will happen. Babies are unpredictable! 

Well, that's all exactly the advice I got from my health visitor n midwife so you just sound like a normal, sensible mother to me! Lol