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This is our 5th baby and we've never received anything for any of our children other than some hand-me-down blankets and an occasional outfit from my husbands mom. That's it. We don't expect anything either. We decided to have our children so at the end of the day, it's not their obligation.
No baby shower gifts from his family?
Me and my love went to my hometown because my mom wanted throw us a baby shower. It was super sweet and fun. My family and friends bought me and him so many thoughtful gifts and wrote such lovely cards. However its been a month and his family hasn't got him anything. I invited them even though I knew they couldn't make it plus shared our registry info annnnd nothing. Is that normal? Maybe they're waiting till later? I'm not sure what to think of it.
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My SO family hasn't bought us anything either. Said they were going to throw a shower but never did and at 35 weeks we couldn't wait any longer and bought the stuff from our registry that my family didn't. Yet his family is so worried they won't be in the kids life...self fulfilling proficy if u ask me.
Ma
yes u are misunderstanding me.
*K
What? Am I misunderstanding or did you just say that if someone doesn't give you/the baby gifts then that means they don't like you enough and don't deserve a relationship with their grandkid/niece/nephew/whatever?
Ja
Exact same situation. They're worried about the baby and want to see him when he comes yet we're received no gifts from them at all.
My husbands mom not once has asked how I'm doing or how the baby is doing when we first got pregnant she said why are you having a baby with her.. I'm plus sized and his mom hates that he's with me she's told him he can do better, my husband adores me so I don't care lol but yes long story short my mom is going crazy for my baby girl while nothing from In laws. Pic bellow is my husband and I married for 2 years baby girl due July 08 :)
Li
Thank you :) your right it just hurts my feelings some days I think bc I'm pregnant lol.
Pe
I think you're beautiful plus size or not... she's just not worth fussing over♡
I know it's hard for people to understand, but NO ONE is obligated to buy you anything.
Sh
It is sad, but you'll be miserable holding them up to standards. You have to have zero expectations. Just be kind and grateful when they do participate.
Li
You are so right, for me it's more his side not even asking how the baby is doing or anything, my husband told her the other day that our baby was due any day she said "already? Huh" nothing else hope it changes when our baby is born for my husband adores his mom
The only thing we got from my husbands family was a huge box of diapers and a couple outfits. His dad had surgery the day before so he couldn't make it, and his new wife didn't come because she didn't know anyone. So we haven't gotten anything from them. And I don't expect anything from them. They are both getting on my nerves and I kinda don't care to see them. They play favorites with their grandchildren and it pisses me off. So my husband and I will most likely go and buy what baby needs.
My in laws haven't gotten us anything after 2 showers and they are not poor. They love to brag to people anytime somethings going on. I didn't realize they didn't bring anything to first one until I was writing thank you cards and couldn't figure out what they'd gotten...and turns out it was nothing. I thought well they'll bring something to the one my family is hosting...nope. Only thing my MIL has mentioned is if she can make the hospital door hanger which if she's paid attention I got 2 at the first shower....I'm just waiting to hear what they've told people they re "going" to do...they've let their son down so many times. I've already decided I will not let them do it to our baby. They're full of false promises. I feel your pain.
Ja
Understand how exhausting it is and a constant let down. My mom said to never let her have control of something important to me again...They're those "weekend" parents. They want to be around when there picture will be taken and brag but never do anything.
Ja
I wanted to be there....6 days before, through Facebook...I was so upset. My MIL was at the beach the weekend before the shower...she procrastinated and didn't send invitations. They've been horrible. While most would say "be grateful" which I am, people who don't deal with assholes like them don't
Ja
My MIL wanted to plan a baby shower because her mom was coming into town from out of state and was going to miss the one my family is hosting. I gave her addresses 2 months in advance! 6 days before the shower my sister in law created a Facebook event, made ME the host and told me to invite who
My husband's extended family have a different tradition. I didn't know it at the time, but, they don't give anything other than homemade or heirloom items at a baby shower. Got a couple of hand knit blankets at the party, and I thought maybe they weren't excited about a new baby in the family. After we sent out the birth announcements, they all started sending money in larger amounts than I felt comfortable accepting. Everyone has their own style and traditions. Maybe they'll be super helpful after the baby arrives. Here's hoping!
My child's father and I come from two completely different backgrounds. My family and extended family are very well off and that is not the case with his. It's a struggle for them daily. I don't expect them to drive the 5 hours to our baby shower or get the baby anything. However, they are always calling and checking on us and have been very supportive emotionally and express how excited they are. Just because they can't buy the baby anything does not discredit the love they feel for the baby😀 in my heart they are no less of grandparents then my patents - there are some things in life you can't buy 🤗
Well... I don't know what's normal or not. But here's my situation. I live in Indiana. My mother, father and brother are here too. Just us. The rest of my extended family lives in Arizona. However, my husband's huge extended family lives in Indiana too. And no one from his family has RSVPed for our co-Ed shower this Saturday... But my extended family in Arizona has been sending presents consistently even though they can't make it. So..... Life is unfair sometimes lol
Ni
I'd much rather have the party with my family and no gifts 😞
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