We live a state away from her, close to my family, but she never even calls or texts to check in. She just texts my bf and asks about him and how he's doing. We try to involve her in things when we can, like the naming but she didn't really seem to care and just changed the subject. My parents have gone out of their way to buy most of everything and plan my entire shower. I never expected her to just buy things for us, but she doesn't even check on. Am I overacting?