Court and Custody questions please help!!!

Li

Lisa

Trying to make this short as possible...

dad and I have had joint custody with bio mom for 7 years. Bio mom has done a lot trauma to children in the past and currently. Mom has physically, emotionally abused a neglected the children. She has had SEVERAL confirmed cases from cps. As less serve as no supervision to serve as broken bones. All children have been in act counsling for 7 years. 3years ago dad and I went to try and get rights terminated or atleast supervised visits. We were granted supervised visits. Mom was court ordered to call 3 times a week and participate in counsling and participate in supervised visits. Mom has not done any of the court orders. Mom hasn't had ANY communication with the children or their father or me for 2 years to date.

One of the children who was abused the most has anxiety and ptsd from the trauma. His father and I have worked hard with the school, dr and counsler. He struggled so bad in school I would have to go there almost every day due to his anxiety of not feeling safe.

This past school year was amazing!!! He succeeded in everything. He had no panic attacks and he finished the school year with the highest average in the grade.

Welp bomb shell. Last day of school...awards ceremony. Mom shows up at the school and sees only one of the kids...the one who was most traumatized by her. Also we had no communication by her she was going and all the numbers we have for her were disconnected

I guess my question is how do u think taking her to court for full custody and no visitation sounds? The counsler is willing to write a summary and recommendation for us. Will they terminate her rights?? Also she only pays $50 in child supoort a month for 3 kids. Not each...total

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Al

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I think full custody without visitation sounds like a great idea. Especially since the child struggled so much and is finally doing well! 

Ag

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I think you've posted this before. She violated the court order repeatedly. File for sole custody and have the school informed of her status.

Ka

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I'd take her to court again. Legally, she wasn't allowed to be there!

Ka

Karie • Jun 24, 2016
She disappeared for 2 years with no contact with the child and then shows up with no warning? No judge is going to be okay with that, especially with how traumatized the child is.

Ni

Nicole • Jun 24, 2016
I was told court ordered supervised visits was different than an ofp. My ex shows up at the school, At games it doesn't matter

Cr

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I don't know how some women can have children and be this way. It makes me sick. I would definitely take her back to court for sole custody and ordering a psychological evaluation sounds like a good idea too. 

Li

Lisa • Jun 24, 2016
the fact that the entire time these kids have been in counsling she has refused to go and participate. the judge orders her to participate and she refuses. this poor kid has a horrible year last year and she doesn't participate in ONE meeting. The school sends her mailings for everything. Then all of a sudden he gets an award bc this year he's doing amazing and you want to show up! doesn't go well with me

Ni

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Good luck!! The system sucks. My ex has had supervised visits for the past two years. They rarely terminate rights and order no visits even when a parent is not following the court order. Take her back to court for contempt of court but be prepared to spend $$$$ we have spent 16,000 this year alone. My ex let his kids watch himHave sex with woman and he also has broken ones nose and my other one ended up with staples in his head during supervised visitation.  The system sucks!!!!!

Ha

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I think you sound like you have a very strong case! It's what's in the best interests of the children and you're trying to protect them. It stinks that people can't act like adults and think about their children before themselves. I'm glad those kids have you and their dad in their life to help get them through this

De

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You need to file a motion for sole physical and legal custody along with a motion for revised child support. You could specify that the mom would be allowed supervised visits only. I've been through this with my husbands kids and he won. 

Ag

Agent • Jun 24, 2016
It will help your case to show you still have hope for a future bond with both parents. It doesn't mean she will get visitation. Ask for a psychological evaluation also, she needs to be deemed fit and safe.

Li

Lisa • Jun 24, 2016
the issues with the supervised visits is mom hasn't done any treatment to help herself or help the relationship with the kids which would be going to counsling