Am I a horrible person?

Question

My fiance and I are getting married in two months, we have been together for over 4 years. The first year and a half we had sex constantly. The next year it was pretty often the last year and a half it's been less and less. The last 6months it's been 1-3 times a month. It's been driving me crazy. I need sex. He doesn't clean, cook, or do anything  nice for me( which I've learned to live with) so the least he could do is have sex with me maybe once or twice a week. I keep thinking about all of these scenarios with other people and friends. I'm getting to the point where I am mean and drifting away. Does that make me selfish?

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No, you're not a horrible person. However, you do need to talk with your fiancé before you get married if you're having these types of issues and thoughts and you aren't even married yet, they won't just go away.

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You're not a horrible person. You are if you let this eat you up inside and decide you aren't happy and leave him without saying a word to him about it, he might not even realize you're feeling like this. You need to talk and express your feelings. If it doesn't change after talking and trying, then you can decide what you want from there. But atleast let him try to fix it, that's only fair.

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Hence you talked to him about this?

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I don't think it makes you selfish at all... but it's probably something you should talk to him about before you get married! Having your needs met, whether they are emotional or sexual, is really important. Tell him how you feel and remember that caring about yourself is never selfish! As long as you are not pressuring him into doing things that make him uncomfortable I think you are fine :)

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I'd talk to him about it.

Am I a horrible person?

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