Did your friendships change?
I was the friend expected to be married and have kids last. Funny how things change, because I ended up being the first to be married - and now the first pregnant. All of my friendships have stayed strong from work on both sides, let me mention - ALL of my best friends and I live long distance. I have my 4 closest girlfriends that have been through everything together.
One specific friend, she is very self absorbed - that is just her, and you learn to love her for exactly who she is. She is the single, wild, party, sex crazed, city living girl. Yes, she wants to meet Mr. Right and settle down and have kiddos, yet travel the world. Surprisingly, with me getting married two years ago - our relationship stayed exactly the same, probably because we kept doing the same things (traveling, girls trips, going out, etc). Well, now that I'm pregnant things have changed.
I find myself not wanting to even talk to her because it's gotten so bad, which I do still - like every day almost, haha. But basically - we can talk about HER - all day, every day. Her job, her life, her men, her adventures, her money problems, her this and get that. We can get done with an entire conversation without her even asking how I am doing. I can be that friend, that listens and is always there, but only for so long until it's like "hello?!?"
I think my feelings are just hurt now. I don't want to say anything but I guess I'm just surprised. If something were seriously wrong with me, much less our baby, she would have no idea. She hasn't asked anything about my pregnancy, how I am feeling, if I have been sick, ANYTHING. Do we have names picked out, the baby shower, what color will the nursery be, she probably doesn't even realize how far along I even am.
I'm always there for her minor life things. Why isn't she here for a major one for me? I just needed to vent and hear what you ladies have to say. Maybe I'm just selfish and hormonal. I always try to be there for my friends, even if I don't understand something new in their life - I'm there, I listen, I ask questions. I guess I just wished, she, specially would return the favor since that's what friends are for.
Whew. Sorry for venting so much! Haha, thank you to anyone who read this through the entire way :)
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