Shortly after our wedding we will be moveing overseas. We talked to the base and they told us if we wanted anything at all shipped, we would have to send it a month in advance than we actually get there. If not then we will have to pay out of pocket to send over our gifts and it would take a month after we arrived for us to receive the gifts. My question is, would it be rude to ask our guests for money or gift cards instead of gifts? And how would I say it to them?