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So my husband (not boyfriend) has a girl on his job that's interested in him. She knows he's married. They text sometimes & I addressed this problem & told him I was uncomfortable with it a couple of months ago. So he texted her & told her he doesn't think it's s good idea for them to text because it makes me uncomfortable. Recently, they've been texting again & he's been initiating the conversations. She even said "I was skeptical about texting you this early because I didn't want wifey problems". (They work early morning jobs). She texted him & said how worried she was about him on a day it was raining. Before we got married he told me about her & how she wanted him. He admitted that she was attractive. This concerns me! & I recently found out I'm pregnant  so my emotions are all over the place. I'm debating if I should address it again. I just don't think that it's right for them to communicate outside of work. Yes, speaking to each other is fine, but other conversations can lead to other things. I mean, if you need a female to text...text me! I am your wife!!

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I agree with you and the fact that they shouldn't have to be texting outside work unless it was work related. Anything else seems fishy to me. Or if I was in your shoes I'd be feeling the same way. It sucks because I can see that mentioning it more than once or twice can seem like it's "crazy" to him. & could be annoying to him. But at the same time if he has any respect for you he shouldn't be talking to her outside of work or if it's not work related. Idk girl.. I wish you the best.. :/

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That's not ok!  I would address it!  The fact that she said she doesn't want wifey problems is saying a lot.  It's disrespectful!  Congrats on your baby!!

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Oh hell no I would not be okay if my husband was texting another woman. In my opinion he needs to stop now. That is just ridiculous. Exactly if he wants to talk to a girl talk to your damn wife! Def wouldn't let that shit happen

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Of course you bring it up again!! That is inappropriate. No way in hell my boyfriend would even question being allowed to talk to a woman we know is interested in him. If he wants to go fishing for attention from other women, let him do so single! You guys definitely need to address this. He is disrespecting you, do not allow it

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She knows she is over stepping the boundaries 
U know she is 
He does and doesn't care!! 
He needs to delete her number full stop! 
Or tell him he needs look for another job 
Failing all that..... Tell him he needs look for  another wife!!

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Girl follow your instincts because I was in your shoes back in 2013 and I caught my husband texting with other women and told him if he's going to text females it should be our friends not some chic from work. I would deff put and end to before it goes into something more.

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confront her

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Whoop her butt and leave your bfs inconsiderate disrespectful ass too ! This is bad advice (the whoop her butt part) but I'm just imagining myself in that position and it really angers me. 
Don't kick the girls ass. It's not her fault and her morals aren't your problem. But you should leave your bf since he's not taking you seriously after speaking to him about it. Even for a few weeks.. He needs to know your not gonna take his sh*t. You have a very legit concern, I think and if you already expressed your discomfort toward their relation and he still continues.. it seems like he doesn't give a sh*t.

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U r right though. It's not necessarily ur hormones although it makes it 1000x worse (been there). I think u should text her and tell her u r pregnant and texting ur husband is not the appropriate thing to do. Tell her u can go on double dates with ur husband and her and her bf, but u do not agree with her texting ur husband (even if she doesn't have a bf, just throw it out there, that way u give her a chance to get one and hang out with u guys). Tell him the same thing "I wouldn't mind US being friends as long as she has her own man. We can even hang out all 4 of us". There. Try it that way.

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Your husband or boyfriend should not be having those conversations drop the zero he lacks respect for you and your marriage

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