We're both insecure

Jill • 18 | high school senior | 6 months in a relationship
So my boyfriend and I are both constantly insecure and think that the other looks at other people (if you know what I mean) although both of us always tell the other that we don't, which is true. We love each other very much and trust each other, but we're both very scared and insecure people. What can we do to help each other overcome this? 
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Ka

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I think it's pretty difficult to see someone attractive and not look. Looking alone is not something that should be taken so harshly because there's lots of beautiful and handsome people in the world . Just have a conversation and come to the understanding that it's harmless to look at other people as long as thats the only thing it is. Just because people look at other people doesn't mean that they don't love their significant others.

Ka

Kalaa • Jun 29, 2016
yeah theres a balance between whats acceptable and whats not. i get you in that sense.

Ji

Jill • Jun 29, 2016
Not even like looking at the person but looking at their butt & boobs and seeing things about other people that I know are his preference

my

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I used to be the worst type of insecure person. My ex and I would be watching tv and the Victoria secret commercial would come on, girl i was so insecure that he would hear the VS commercial music & look away before the commercial even came on. Same with the old Burger king commercials. Even out in public he would automatically look up everywhere we went because I thought he was looking at other girls. This was when he was 17 & I was 14. Now he is 23 & I am almost 21. My issue was so bad that the only thing that helped us honestly was us breaking up. Now that he is seeing other people and I am too we are able to understand each other. We arent together but I am his rock / best friend. (No sex) Im like his sister. Im the only person who knows him and he treats me the best. I like this better than him being my man lol. He just recently lost his apt because him and his ex broke up. Now me & his 5 year old daughter are living happily in his apartment with our best friends and there babies. Truly Happy.SO. the advice I have for you is to try to just let it go , start to view it as P*ssy is P*ssy. Ass is Ass and boobs are only boobs. You have all of the same stuff and if he wants to look at somebody elses then who cares he is a human and so are you. As long as nobody touches then everything is ok. I hope I helped.

my

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I used to be the worst type of insecure person. My ex and I would be watching tv and the Victoria secret commercial would come on, girl i was so insecure that he would hear the VS commercial music & look away before the commercial even came on. Same with the old Burger king commercials. Even out in public he would automatically look up everywhere we went because I thought he was looking at other girls. This was when he was 17 & I was 14. Now he is 23 & I am almost 21. My issue was so bad that the only thing that helped us honestly was us breaking up. Now that he is seeing other people and I am too we are able to understand each other. We arent together but I am his rock / best friend. (No sex) Im like his sister. Im the only person who knows him and he treats me the best. I like this better than him being my man lol. He just recently lost his apt because him and his ex broke up. Now me & his 5 year old daughter are living happily in his apartment with our best friends and there babies. Truly Happy.SO. the advice I have for you is to try to just let it go , start to view it as P*ssy is P*ssy. Ass is Ass and boobs are only boobs. You have all of the same stuff and if he wants to look at somebody elses then who cares he is a human and so are you. As long as nobody touches then everything is ok. I hope I helped.

Ha

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That has to come from within. That isn't healthy. You both have to work on it individually. You can't help each other over come your insecurities.