Why won't he have sex with me?

Question

My husband and I just had our first child, and I've been given the go ahead to resume all former activities. He hasn't even tried to touch me. Our baby is 7 weeks old now, but this has been a problem even before I was pregnant. He's not the cheating kind, for real, and I admit I have looked in his phone before just because ive been driving myself crazy wondering why we no longer have a regular sex life. He has a lot of "topless" searches in his search history (and of course that bothers me).
We have discussed our sex life in the past and he says he'll try harder but of course nothing has changed....I can't be the only one initiating it all the time!!! Help ☹️

Answer

Men have fluctuations in libido just like women do, it's just not talked about as much. He may just be going through a phase due to the new baby. If he's having concerns and is unable to perform, he may be low on testosterone which is something you both can discuss with a doctor.

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Honey I thought my husband wasn't the cheating type either and he did.  I still don't understand why.  I did everything I was supposed to as a wife went above and beyond and still got stabbed in the back by a couple of people. So don't trust anyone anymore they will all  stab you in the back

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Maybe he is bored and need some changes or he just has a problem getting horny. I would have a talk with him and maybe going to a doctor. A few years ago I was taking the contraceptive pill and this just turned me off so so much that I had to stop taking it for that reason, so a testosterone test would be very useful in that case. Hormons are crazy!

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Things change after having a baby. Sometimes men can have trouble seeing their partner as a sexual being after becoming a mother. Sit down with him and talk about it. Be very candid.

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Girl i wish i had your problem. My so on the other hand wants it all the time. But he dont always put play into it. So he thinks im suppose to pop open like a jack in the box! But maybe you can try wearing like something sexy for him and and let him know how you feel.

Why won't he have sex with me?

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