Is your husband/boyfriend/ or partner being insensitive lately?

Question

Just wanted to know cause it seems like im not being treated right and I'm 7 months pregnant . As the days are getting tougher for me , seems like my husband is being rude, nonchalant, not so helpful , and even annoyed by me. He complains that I need help so often and can't help out around the house much anymore. He got angry because I couldn't cook dinner one night when I came home late after a long day of work. He recently (just an hour ago) said to me : " I'm acting like a b*^ch " only because I said that he was being mean and insensitive to me over something... I no longer want to ask him for help or favors anymore because of his attitude.

Anyone else going through something similar with your partner ? If yes I'm interested in hearing your stories and what to do here..

Answer

Yes! I literally stopped asking for anything. I don't ask for help or anything because if I do I get attitude I feel like and the sense of me bothering him. So I just leave him be. It's irritating and makes me a little more stressed than necessary but it seems like he doesn't care and when we try to talk I feel like it causes an argument so I just fend for myself and then when he sees I'm doing something I struggle with he's gets mad because I didn't ask him help. Smh!

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Pregnancy takes a toll on relationships yeah at first you're both in that sweet happy babymoon phase, but it starts wearing you down for both of you. He's probably frustrated that you can't do the things you could before, and so are you and you're also probably frustrated because he's not being as helpful and lovey as he was in the beginning. Let's be honest between the cravings and mood swings living with a Prego isn't smooth sailing. When I was pregnant with my first child his father was great at first and then he just got down right nasty because I'd be exhausted after working 10 hour shifts all week and all I wanted to do was sleep. I literally stopped cleaning and cooking which I expected him to do because well he was unemployed.. But instead he did nothing but play video games, smoke pot  and call me a fat lazy whore. But you should neither accept that treatment or allow it to continue hold your ground tell him rationally how you feel and then go from their

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My husband isn't being that extreme but he rolls his eyes about my limitations. Like if I say I shouldn't lift groceries that are heavy or whatever the case, he acts like I'm taking advantage of the situation. I guess I don't understand your situation well enough to analyze it, but sometimes I do feel like my husband doesn't understand how hard pregnancy can be, especially bc mine has been relatively easy  so far. I'm only 23 weeks so I can't wait to see how he acts when I'm really big and helpless.

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I'm glad my boyfriend isn't like this.. He kind of understands that my body is changing and growing and hurting for unknown reasons. Sometimes we nip at each other but we had a reeeeeally long discussion about when he was being a dick. He admitted he doesn't know what to do for me most of the time (I'm usually too stubborn to ask for help) and it was just discussed. I told BD straight out one point, that if we can't discuss things then our relationship WILL fall apart. If he can't be an adult and discuss things then there's a problem...

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You are definitely not alone in this. My husband has pretty much been like that the whole time too. I've spent many nights upset and stressed out over it and I'm at the point where I just keep my mouth shut and save myself the bullshit. He reads the What To Expect book and 'knows' all the side effects and limitations but deep down he doesn't really seem to give a shit either. I had to pause a movie to hang up clothes to dry and he complained that I was taking too long (literally like 7 minutes) 'I wanted to eat my ice cream DURING the movie, not with it paused' so I said 'Well you could get up and help me!' But instead just sat there complaining. I am almost 7 months and have trouble reaching into the washer but all he cared about was his damn movie and ice cream!! 😑🙋🏻🔫

Is your husband/boyfriend/ or partner being insensitive lately?

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