I don't feel comfortable having sex with him?

Question

My fiancé and I have been sexually active on and off for about 6 months because we are in a long distance relationship due to his job. We've been having lots of problems, he doesn't really listen to me anymore or consider my feelings. He's came really close to breaking up with me about 4 times in the last month. This is because he has severe anxiety and he says things he doesn't mean when he has his episodes. I know he loves me and doesn't want us to end but it's hard when he's stressed out and tells me otherwise.

Anyways, he's been really upset with me because I haven't been in the mood to show him my body or send him dirty pics or talk dirty to him. For me, I can't really be sexually aroused or want sex from someone unless I know that we are in love and won't go anywhere, I gets its a security thing. I wouldn't want to have a pregnancy accident and have him not stuck around. I know everyone's different but that's just me. I really want to fulfill his needs and everything and I'm tired of him being upset with me but I I just don't know how to get myself in the mood after all this. Am I wrong? Does anyone have any tips for me to turn this around?😔

Answer

I think you guys should talk to someone or reevaluate the relationship, you sound like an awesome girl and if you're going to be married to this person you can't worry about if they still have feelings for you everyday etc. I don't know how to deal with someone else's anxiety and I doubt you do either, talking to a therapist or someone more knowledgable might help. Ultimately you need to decide if you want to get married to someone you can't 100% depend on. It's a hard thing to think about but you sound like a strong smart girl so I think you'll be able to make the decision. Best of luck xoxo

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You're not wrong for feeling the way you do. I'm the same way with my boyfriend except we live in the same house. I'd suggest you talk to him about it and suggest seeing a counselor together. If he's meant to be your husband, he'll want to fix it as much as you do. Everything works out the way it's supposed to so whether or not you two end up together, it's for the best and you'll be happier with the end result. Good luck, sweetie.💕💕💕

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It's not wrong for you to feel like that, I men's it's hard to be turned on by someone who is always mad at you. That's understandable, you should just have a talk with him. Don't let him guilt trip you into doing anything for him girl.

I don't feel comfortable having sex with him?

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