Divorce or stick it out?

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I can't stand the thought of being away from my baby 50% of the time if we divorce. The thought of not tucking him in every night or being there when he cries is heartbreaking to me. His dad is physically there but just sits on his phone on social media all day. He doesn't seem to care about me or my happiness. Our baby is six months. Is this a good enough reason to stay? I just want to be the best mother possible and if I have to put aside my own happiness and suck it up, I will. What do you think? Please give it to me straight
EDIT- We have gone to couseling and he is so hard headed the counselor actually got aggravated after trying to explain something to him for literally over a hour that she had to calm down. True story!

DOUBLE EDIT- The reason I'm seeking divorce isn't because he's on social media, our problems go much deeper(cheating, trust, lying) that even with couseling, I don't believe I will ever truly get over. I've tried so hard, but some things you just can't forgive😢 
I'm sorry for all the edits, I just feel numb to him and although I will always have love for him as he's the father of my child, I don't even know if I'm IN LOVE with him anymore if that makes sense.  He doesn't seem to want to care if we fix things either. I'm just thinking about my baby at this point, what can I do, or better yet, what would you do if you were in my situation? My baby needs me and I need him. His dad is just 'whatever' about anything and everything that's has to do with me or his baby yet he said he'll seek out joint custody  and I wouldn't want to keep his baby away from him anyway. I'll just make a long story short and say that he's not nessissarily a bad dad, but he's not a good one either😔

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It is unlikely the courts will give 50/50 TIME custody. You'll likely get joint custody but that normally means he gets every second weekend from 6pm Friday to 10am Saturday until the kid is 4 or 5 I think.

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I'm sorry you're in that situation, it sounds rough. If it's really bad, maybe try a trial separation? He will see how serious you are about it and hopefully try to change. And you could see if your life would be better without him in it. If you divorce you won't necessarily get 50/50 custody either, you as the mother would probably get more if you want it.

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I would consult with an attorney. Also, it sounds like you have tried and things are not working out. And it's never good to stay just for kids

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I think you and your husband need to talk about it. Can you kindly, humbly let him know that it's frustrating to you when he's always on his phone? Can you suggest marriage counseling (all marriages, healthy and unhealthy alike need marriage counseling! See if you can find a couple who's been married for 20+ years to help you walk through this together)? You made a commitment to eachother, to love and cherish eachother until death. Don't break that because of social media. Get real, talk about it, open your ears and listen to what he has to say, seek help when you need it-- don't quit.

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Sounds like you love him but your not IN LOVE with him. It also depends how long yall been together. I'd you really love ur child then stick it out as long as you can for the sake of their happiness

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If you have made an effort, and tried to fix things then by all means get a divorce. An unhappy household could be even worse than having separated parents. It's great you care about how it will affect your child, but you have to think about yourself too. Being in a relationship with no love and resentment isn't healthy, and will only teach your child unhealthy relationship habits as well. Where as if you get divorced you may both find better partners and you child could have 2 very great relationship examples to learn from.

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Do what you think is best for yourself.
The baby will grow up healthy and happy if you are happy, too!

I do not think staying unhappily in a relationship for your child is a good reason.
The kid can see past through it anyway.

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Im in the same exact situation my son is 6 months too

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Have you tried fixing things? Have you talked to him about it?

Divorce or stick it out?

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