Did I say the right thing to my boyfriend about hygiene?

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This is the conversation. My mother insulted me and told me that I shouldnt have even mentioned about his hygiene, and let it be. She has told me that it must have hurt him so bad, when in fact he has hurt me a few times, but we learnt to understand each other's needs. Obviously I knew that this may have hurt him Thats why I told him I take full responsibility, I truthfully couldn't take the bad hygiene anymore. I honestly wanted to talk to my mother about this, and all she did was insult me. 
"I've been contemplating for a while now and I just didn't know when the right time would be to discuss this with you.
I know lately I haven't really been very, caring and loving. I know I haven't  reassured you several things. I know I haven't been very close with you. I know I've been quite hurtful. So I'd like to say I'm  sorry. It's late at night and I'm tossing and turning in my bed because I can't stop thinking about you.
I guess, I'm more honest when it's late and I'm tired. You have showed me nothing less than kindness, and I have been quite obnoxious.
Although, let me get one thing clear, I love you.
I seriously do. I promise you that I do. But the biggest problem that I have right now with you, is hygiene.. That's all. That's why I've been acting towards you this way. Babe, I need you to willingly be clean. That's all I ask. It's a really important aspect to me. So I was wondering if you could respect that. Ugh it sent. 
Like considering I try my hardest, I was wondering if you could put a little more effort in yourself, I seriously feel as if you don't brush your teeth or apply deodorant.. Or even wash your hair regularly.
You've never had this problem before, but I think for the past 3 months (before your leg), you've really lacked with your hygiene.
You told me "there's nothing you can't tell me", and you know what, you're right.
I will tell you how you feel because I don't want to lose interest in you. 
My feelings for you have differed in current ways, (nothing bad, don't worry) and by that I mean I see you differently than I did 6 months ago. 
I see you as loving boyfriend, someone who takes care of me. BUT, is starting to lack interest in trying with himself. 
So please babe understand for me that this is a big issue to me. I haven't said anything because I was afraid of hurting the person I love most, but being completely honest with you, it was swaying my mind away all the bloody time all because of my fears. And I understand if you're upset with me, and I'll take full responsibility.. But I'm only saying this because I want to be honest with you, and that I care about your well being as well as health.."
And he replied with "thank you for being honest babe ❤ i appreciate that so so much, honestly i agree with everything youve said and i respect every bit of it and i promise youll see improvements ❤ 😗"

Opinions guys?

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Idk what the issue is. It sounds like he got it. The way you said it may have been a little harsh or embarrassing but he didn't seem to take it that way. And it's a tough thing to say and not come off that way. If he's not mad, then who cares what your mom thinks?

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I think honesty is a major key in a relationship and the way you put it to him was perfect! You explained everything well and it wasnt to harsh all but honest and truth and even more better that his response was positive. Hes willingly to do so. You relationship sounds tight keep it up

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I think that was great even before reading his comment on it, but he didn't sound upset or anything so I think that's a pretty good sign you did well. I think it'd be pretty normal if he was somewhat upset/self conscious after that, but that's unavoidable. You did your best to be as nice about it as possible, and I hope it pays off 👍

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Women have been taught for a long time not to criticize men. You did the right thing, your mom was wrong to insult you for that. Communication is key in any relationship.

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You did great. And he obviously wasn't offended. I say you explained your feelings perfectly ❤

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You explained things as nice as you possibly could. You didn't sound judgmental or rude at any time. I think you explained things well and he seemed to feel like you explained things well too.

Did I say the right thing to my boyfriend about hygiene?

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