Gentle is key

I need help! I love it rough in bed but my bc gets so excited before sex he's too rough. He'll come up behind me and just rub my Pussy and I would enjoy being touched so often if he was more gentle w my clit. I swear his fingers are like rocks sometimes. I've literally yelled at him explaining how sensitive it is but it doesn't change! Any tips on how to get him to soften up at least with his hands down there?