Porn and unpopular opinion

Why do women get bashed if they're not okay with porn? Why does everyone say, "it's normal! Don't worry about it." Can't a woman take a stand and say, I don't like that and don't want you to view another woman's naked body, or I don't want you to watch things like that. What if that woman is insecure and it just makes her feel horrible about her own body. What if it makes her feel not good enough so her man has to get it somewhere else to feel satisfied. She shouldn't be bashed because she is not okay with porn. It's fine if some people are okay with it, and think it's totally normal. But if people are uncomfortable with it, let them be.