Is it bad that I'm considering not finding out the sex to avoid a reveal party?

Question

We are really don't have the time, money or space to have a gender reveal party for both families - and having one for each would be even more difficult. Both immediate and extended family are expecting to be included in the reveal, and traveling to each individual person/family to announce in person would also be unrealistic.

The sad thing is, I've thought of every solution I can and the only one that doesn't involve someone in either family being angry or feeling left (or having my husband and I bend over backwards to make everyone happy) out would be to just wait until the birth to find out the sex.

My husband and I always planned on finding out but honestly this whole issue is making me so incredibly anxious that this just seems like the easiest way. I know I couldn't keep it a secret if I knew so that's definitely out of the question...

I don't know...am I crazy or does this make any sense? I appreciate honesty, but if you're going to be rude or snarky, please go elsewhere thanks 😊

Accepted Answer

You could just find out & not have a reveal party at all.

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Why not just find out yourselves and tell people if and when they ask? It doesn't need to be a big ordeal.

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In Australia we don't have gender reveal parties, I seriously don't understand what the point of them is. Why can't you tell everyone at the baby shower or have the gender on the baby shower invite if you want gender specific gifts? As far as we were concerned it is our baby and we didn't owe it to anyone to go out of our way to tell them anything.

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A.) Find out and let them know via call or in person

B.) Find out for yourselves and keep it private

C.) Get a photographer and take a photo reveal. Throw paint/silly string on each other, ballon release, chalk bomb. Whatever you like

In the end everyone should just be excited that your having a baby!

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When did gender reveal parties even become a thing? I say do or don't do what you want when it comes to your announcements & parties. This is your baby, & you get to be the ones to dictate your experience!

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We orginallu wanted to do a reveal party but then we realized how many people it would involve and I honestly didn't want to host everyone and clean up etc. We went for a private scan a few weeks ago and found out its a boy. We went out and got a cheap it's a boy banner and it's a boy balloons from party city and took our own pics at home. We told our parents in person, sent the photos to close friends and family, and then posted on Facebook for any extended people after  that

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We just found out at our anatomy scan. No party necessary.

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I don't blame you at all for not wanting to deal with it. I knew someone who did scratch cards so their family could find out from far away without having to throw a party if you wanted to do something special. We just called immediate family and announced on Facebook to let everyone else know

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Reveal parties are a relatively new trend. Anyone expecting you to have one or behaving like its a mandatory part of being pregnant.. Should be willing to throw it them self then. I would find out, and tell people when they ask. I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourself. It's your pregnancy, your baby, your choice .

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My husband and I really want to know the gender, but we don't want to tell anyone else (and definitely don't want to have a party). My family is furious and most of our friends just don't believe we won't tell them (in-laws are on board, they are super chill).

Our midwife gave us the best suggestion at the last appointment: find out for ourselves, and just tell everyone else that they weren't able to see clearly enough during the ultrasound.

Is it bad that I'm considering not finding out the sex to avoid a reveal party?

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