Monster in law😤

Some of you may have read how I have been having problems with my in laws(is not normal problems) last time I posted and told you all how my mother in law has complete access to my husband's bank account, she spends about $100 a month, she delayed us from our late honeymoon (because he wasn't able to get time off work when we were married) she was mad we didn't stay with her  for dinner so she used my husband's money to pay for her family dinner at it was $300. I have been trying to improve our relationship but she just doesn't care! She only calls me when it's important to her, when ever I call her she doesn't answer then calls me days later or not at all and then she always gives me the same excuse "that her phone was on silent " today is her birthday, I did call her to tell her happy birthday but I did say I wanted to meet up so we can talk , she already knows what I want to talk about so she said she'll think about meeting up with me (btw I want to talk to her about our families getting together) she is totally refusing to do it, she always says it's not the right time. My husband is in the military and he is currently not here. I try not to talk bad about his mom to him but when she talks to him she makes me out to be bad daughter in law that doesn't communicat, I NEED ADVISE ON HOW TO TALK TO HER TODAY PLEASE COMMENT