What should his B-day be?

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So due to medical complications from my 1st and second pregnancy I'm am officially a c-section mother.  While I would have loved a natural birth, I'm actually quite glad I have c-sections because in my head way back in the past, I would probably just be a barren woman.  Any who since I am having a scheduled birth I seriously cant pick a date,   considering my due date is thanksgiving and I love in a very religious state the date I want it done I'll get.

Nov.18-  this date will give me time to recover, and just be by myself wuth my husband and kids before the family onslaught

Nov. 21- this date will have being released the day before Thanksgiving. By that time my SIL will be here to help me

Nov. 27- I love this date the best. But it is Sunday, so again I dont know if my doctor will. Being a holiday w weekend also and by this time my family would be traveling home for the holidays and I would feel guilty if they had to stay. But. I really like this date.

Nov. 30- for me this is optimal. The holiday is over and lI fe is nornal. I love this date the utmost.  My daughters birthdays are 10-28 and 10-29 so his birthday being 11-30 just makes me ecstatic. Vain or shallow it could be but I seriously want this date.  Draw backs are my SIL and MIL have to back at work on 11-29 so they can't be there.  All new family will be gone this weekend and I don't want them making a double trip.

His birth would be a inconvenience not in a bad way but since I do get to choose his b-day by choosing this date everyone is calling me inconsiderate by putting it after the holiday since they would either have to stay longer or make a double trip,  miss work,  etc. I get that we all need to make a living and expenses can be tight, and everyone wants to meet him. But I feel Xmas is around the corner and we're having a come 'meet the family' party in Jan to introduce him. So why do they need to be here for the birth.  They can't be in the hospital with me and I won't be released with him for 48-72 hours.

It's all frustrating. I want to be selfish but since I've never had a family like this, I love that everyone wants to be included in all our milestones and I don't want to make them feel left out.

Help!!!

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If your due date is Thanksgiving (November 24th) then they most likely will not allow you to schedule a c section any time after that date. There would be to much of a chance of you going into labor naturally and requiring an emergency c section. I believe with singleton pregnancies they generally want to schedule a week before the due date. Which means out of your selected dates November 18th is the only feasible one. Keep in mind though your doctor most likely will not schedule a specific date if he/she is not scheduled to be at the hospital on that date.

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Just curious if your doctors gave you that much flexibility with your c section already. I know around here they do scheduled csections about a week before your due date so you don't go into labor.

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Id say November 18th is too early so my pick is the 30th.  Allows baby more time in the womb.  It's not about family members it's about what's best for baby and you have to realize that the long baby stays inside the more time his lungs and brain have to develop and mature.  Just because someone hits 37 weeks this doesn't mean baby is fully cooked.

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A scheduled c section comes 1 week before your due date, if it falls on a weekend, it will be scheduled on the following Monday. I've never heard of a doctor scheduling a c section after the due date

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If you do the 18th you can enjoy your holiday with family and your new one. If you do the 30th you can enjoy your family on the holiday and not have to worry about a newborn. 
Devils advocate, I know. 😈
However I am selfish and love the holidays so I'd wait until afterwards. That way I wouldn't have to worry about not being able to eat the delicious food because baby is hungry or cranky. lol. And also another thought, heaven forbid any complications arise during the surgery (not saying they will) you may miss the holiday and family time all together. Plus, the later you wait the better developed baby will be.

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When's your due date?

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It didn't take me long to decide. Do what's most convenient for you! Your the new mommy! Don't even pay attention to others complaints honestly you are the mom and you will have raging hormones after birth I think you need to be made to feel the most comfortable. Altho of mil and sil being around is a help for you then that's something to consider as well. But really this is the time if any to focus on yourself and your baby!

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Hi everybody. Yes me doctor is going to officially schedule me at 28 weeks for my c-section. Im 25 now and I was given a 2 week grace period around my due date so basically front Nov. 18 to Dec. 1 is my range (39-41 weeks) to pick a optimal day.

This is everything is fine and of course if I dont go into labor. My doctors office is literally in the parking lot of the hospital I will deliver. In fact it's a entire building dedicated to obgyn care. He actually left to deliver a baby and came back within am hour.  I completely love me doctor

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November 30 also gives baby more time in the womb. But on the other hand November 18 gives you more flexibility to avoid a possible emergency c section if you're scheduled later and go into labor.

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I vote the 19th cuz that's my sons birthday!

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